Why does the battle feels so lonely?

[Meraki10]

I am new here. I have been suffering from anxiety and depression from past 3 years and have been undergoing therapy and medications. I thought I was getting better. But last night I had this severe attack which made me feel extremely lonely. I kept questioning why I have to go through hell while most of my friends are enjoying their lives. I was jealous of my boyfriend for having a better mental health. I don't know if I am the only one who feels like this or it is common with everyone struggling to stay aloft...

[LDRinpink]

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way as well. I totally relate. I wish I had better advice but I just keep telling myself that it will go in waves and it will get better and some times will just be bad. If it makes you feel better, my mom attempted suicide around 7 years ago. And the other day she was saying that she hasn’t been struggling with depression recently, she has been able to keep it under control and managing life. That gives me hope for the future. Feel free to message me if you want to talk more

[endofheartache1290]

I feel this way as well. I am bitter that I have to struggle while so many have it much easier. And unfortunately we have to accept that this is the way of things. For better or worse some have it good others not so much. I am sure there are people in the world who see us as having better lives then them. Life is unfortunately cruel and unfair. We have to strive to make the most out of what we are given though. Think about the things you are grateful for and the values that you have. You said you had a boyfriend. That is something a lot of people don't have, a caring partner. You said you have friends and that is something a lot on this site and out there in the world don't have. I know it's not much help. Nor but it is the truth. I think taking things one day at a time is best. And again, doing our best to remind ourselves of the the good things we possess. Comparing ourselves to others never ends well and so we should strive to focus on what we do have. Like I said there is always going to be someone better off or worse off. So just be content that you are you and that you have value and that you are cared for by so many. I hope you feel better soon.

[Whiskers16 in reply to endofheartache1290]

I need to tell myself this too as spend too much time feeling sorry for myself and jealous of others

[endofheartache1290 in reply to Whiskers16]

I understand that. I do it more than I should as well. But our it's important to live our own lives and not focus on anyone else's. After all it is our own life. It's not easy and sometimes it's okay to fall off the wagon so to speak but so long as we we get back up and find worth in ourselves and live a good life that is all that matters.

[ThePurpleTulip]

Hello Meraki10 ! Hope you're feeling better since the severe anxiety attack. I completely empathize with you when you wonder why you have to experience this hell when so many people around you seem to have better mental health. I have also had feelings of intense jealousy and even bitterness towards the people around me who just did not see how difficult it was for me just to get out of bed and show up at work. I felt so lost and lonely when nobody seemed to congratulate me for making it trough episodes of intense pain, they just did not see it. I have suffered intense mental pain for years. I say mental pain rather than emotional pain, because that is exactly what it has been. The thoughts, endless thoughts causing me endless suffering. I started to get a handle on things when I started to consciously bring my attention to emotions rather than thoughts. Focusing on emotions rather than thoughts help us stay rooted in the present, which is the doorway to absolute peace. Please feel free to message me if you would like to chat anytime. Take care.

[Natsteveo]

Hi there Youre certainly not alone there i look at my husband and think I wish I could not be like this anxiety all the time wish I was like him just chilled and go with the flow like he does and not to worry about every pain I feel or every sensation its draining isn't it

Nat

[MJD-]

I’m very sorry to hear. In my professional opinion I would say the best way to battle an anxiety or depressive disorder is to get an official specific diagnosis from a psychiatrist as they are the only clinicians excluding some specialist psychologist practitioners, who can officially diagnose you, identify what specific category of depression or anxiety you fall under. They can quite rapidly sometimes even within the first session advise and offer effective treatment plans for your specific symptoms usually consisting of pharmaceutical therapy prescribing you the most effective medication or combination of medication as most medications are effective for different symptoms and disorders. They can also prescribe all medications that your GP can’t authorise. Usually off label use of medications, augmented medication options, controlled medications and antipsychotics if necessary. Don’t make the mistake as I did of assuming your local GP can treat you. Unfortunately they are most often not qualified enough to issue a treatment plan that will be effective. They can only go of NHS appointed treatment options, which are not tailed to specific symptoms. They also can’t authorise many effective medications. The best they can do if refer you to a psychiatrist and talking therapies. I chose to go private myself as there is alway a very long waiting list for any mental health treatments combined with the issue that a lot of NHS policies and treatments and medications are mostly outdated, and under researched usually post cost efficacy above the newer researched treatments and medications. Private psychiatrists although somewhat costly are not restricted by NHS policy or restricted in what medications they can prescribe most importantly any new more modern medications not yet approved by the NHS. Branded private prescription can be extremely costly although some NHS GPs will take over care from a private treatment plan under certain circumstances.

[froggymom88]

You are not alone. Many people suffer from depression ,anxiety and many other things but although some people may be unhappy they don't share it. Any time you struggle with illness it is often 3 steps forward then 1 step back. Don't let some bad days get you down. We are here for you,