I feel that i need to vanish

[Foreverbroken31]

It's been a while since the last time i felt i should not exist in this world. 😭 I'm a soon to be 30 year old still leaving with her parents. I feel unworthy, unloved and desperate to end it all. I feel so ashamed of myself and this pathetic life. I sometimes wonder how would i ever tell my future kids i was 30 and still under my parents roof. It hurts that i don't know how to fly or even run. I have been fighting an anxiety attack for days now. 💔 I'm broken

[hungrymonky]

There is nothing wrong with being 30 and living with your parents. There’s no set timeline for everyone. We all have different lives and experiences that have led us to where we are.

I don’t think you should feel ashamed at all. You are a human being worthy of love and respect and your living situation does not change that.

While I don’t know the reasoning for you living with them, I know that it doesn’t make you unworthy, unloved, or pathetic. Some people say you should get married at a certain time, graduate at a certain time, but in reality everyone has different lives and paths. We shouldn’t put expectations upon ourselves like that because we don’t know the future. It just makes us feel bad.

Sending you love and support. Even if you believe you can’t run or fly now, you can always learn. You deserve to exist. You deserve to live your life without feeling ashamed.

[Hidden]

Hello

I have a 27 year old still living at home and it looks like he has no intention of moving out any time in the near future in fact I have a feeling he will be here at 30 even longer

He thinks why move out when I have all the comforts of home which I think is very wise for him maybe not so much for us

You cannot judge yourself on how old you are living at home , this does not make you unworthy or less of a person or unlovable not at all

Today's Society and the way some younger people are can make you feel that way but it is so not true

Everyone on here is suffering with anxiety / depression I know you don't look at us and think we are pathetic , we did not ask for this so why think you are pathetic as you did not ask for this either , it is like any other illness and if you did suffer with something else you would not beat yourself up , I think because this can only be felt and not seen unlike a broken leg or something we really do give ourselves a tough time

You are very much loveable and things will improve and even though I know you won't see it you will have so much to offer this world just sharing how you feel when people are reading but do not comment you are helping someone else out there that feels the same way to but is not ready to speak out

I hope things start to feel better soon x

[Hidden]

I don't thing u should feel bad about that. There are people who live with their parents forever and ever and are not even considering getting out and later take over when they are gone. Don't feel bad about that. U are tooooo young to worry about that blv me. You know I have been thinking that when we are too close to a situation, we tend to glorify it as if we are the only ones affected by it which is why I enjoy this site. It has made me realize that I am not the only one with problems. I feel way better than before. I'm not saying I luv that other people are experiencing problems but it makes me realize that I am not alone, I am not a loser but just part of a pack which is going through similar challenges. I used to glorify my problems but now I am okay and think that I am doing fine, so don't feel bad ab it, u will b okay...

[Hidden]

I too was stuck with no way out. Even if I wanted to I couldn't because I had a baby. I started taking little steps towards my freedom. Setting small goals for myself. Got my GED, then my driver's license, a job, putting back a little money then a car. We are all at different seasons in our lives and its not cheap living on your own. We all know this. Don't be too hard on yourself. Set some goals that you can achieve. Not too high...President has already been taken. Find out what your gift is....and research those areas. Just keep moving forward. Thats all we can do. Thats all all of us are doing. Just do today...one thing today. You can do it. 🙂

[Shivedita]

Oh broken soul!

Not every battle was won when people were in 20s. Everyone has their own time to shine and you will have yours.

First get better soon. Work on your anxiety and take your time. You will be able to run as well as fly.

And, you will tell your future kids, how you battled through all this.

Oh you are worthy and loved.♥️

[san_ray70]

My sister had five children, one by one they made a life. The twins started university, decided they did not like it. All my sisters kids have been back and forth for as long as I can remember. I lost touch with my sister for stupid reasons. Last year my mum died, my sister for some reason turned her back on me, at the funeral. I know the eldest boy married, I see my great nieces and nephews on face book. As far as I know my sister is still close with all her kids. I envy her that, I had a boy and girl, through life they do not contact me. Make the most of your life, by the way my brother was nearly thirty before he got married, that was 40 years ago. Good luck, take care.