Do we sabotage our own positivity due to our negativity?

[JW621]

Keep out the negative thoughts. Don’t dwell. Don’t assume negative events. I try not to corrupt myself, I’m my worst enemy. We have tools we need to stay focused. We have control of our lives. Stopping the bad thoughts. Reversing the negative rhetoric into positive. I am thankful for the warm house and my comfortable bed that I sleep in. The food that is available to me. The job that pays for it and the money I have to buy a phone computer to be able to express what I’m feeling. I’m thankful to be able to wake up and breathe. Give thanks. Can you ?

[Downandout123]

I read posts like yours a lot. This just doesn't work for me. My mind is in negative and pessimistic mode ALL THE TIME. I can't stop the thoughts from coming into my head.

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

How can you stimulate your energy to distract the negative thoughts ?

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

I honestly don't know. I'm going through a very rough time. I can't see the positivity in anything.😔 And depression and anxiety makes it all the worse.

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

I’m going through my worst time as well. I’m finding it to be very challenging, but I find that it is causing me to reinvent my character. My outlook. I get lost too, a lot. But the most important part is I catch myself. Tomorrow is another day. My mind range from wild to mild in a second. There’s control you can have if you let it.

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time.☹

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

We can get through this. We are here to support each other. I went hard times in my business as well. Located in the surburbs of nyc. I’m taking it one day at a time. I want happiness. Don’t you? How can I help to make your day better or feel like there’s hope?

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

Thank you. That's very nice of you.🙂 But I honestly don't know. My head is like a BLOCK. I have to do everything myself and won't let family help me. It's an OCD thing. It's just something I have to work through, and it wouldn't be half as bad without all the anxiety. Anxiety just kind of wants to roll me up into a ball and let me lie there all day. Instead of making progress to where I need to be.

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

Your winning half the battle. You need to have someone try to help you in your own pace. Might relive the anxiety that you causing you to be stuck. How can I help right now with words ?

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

I don't know. But I know I don't want anyone to come in here to help me.

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

I won’t be going there literally. How can I take away the pain for at least a minute of your life through our words.

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

Haha, I know that!! I meant my family. I just don't know what anyone could say to me right now to make it better.

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

How about. What a great smile you have

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

😂

[2manyyrs in reply to JW621]

VERY WELL SAID!!!👍

[JW621 in reply to 2manyyrs]

I’m all about support. As much I can give. I would like to receive as well. How are you doing

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

How can you find happiness. There has to be on thing

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

That one thing is something that I'm trying really hard to work towards, but it just seems impossible. I've just got to do the work, and the work is extremely hard for me.

[JW621]

Life is too short, and it’s flying by. Do you want to remember these times with some positivity?

[JW621]

As much as we let our minds get taken over with negative bad energy and thoughts. The power we have inside our minds needs to take over these bad thoughts.

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

I'll try. Thanks

[JW621]

Self care is important as well.

[JW621]

You look beautiful

[JW621]

You look beautiful

[Downandout123 in reply to JW621]

Yes-those are some beautiful tulips, aren't they?!

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

Yes there and so are you

[JW621 in reply to Downandout123]

Beautiful tulips

[Tiggerakafidgity in reply to JW621]

Gorgeous big bright sun flowers swaying in the wind on a wonderful warm day

[Tiggerakafidgity]

Hi Jw

I spoke to a very knowledgeable guy about 20 yrs ago.

We had a chat about negative thoughts.

He said our brains are automatically in negative thought pattern.

What actually have to do is trick the brain to be positive.

So have you ever watched the news.have you ever noticed how all the negative news gets spoken about first and what positive news there is is right at the end for half the time.

I don’t watch the news I don’t read the news papers I don’t watch the depressing soaps.

Notice ppls lives are always crap.some one gets shot some one get killed.

It’s actually part to do with media that controls our minds.

The news make so much out of sadness it’s unreal.

The thing is if you can realise and catch your self starting to think negative I jump up say come one Better than that.

It’s taken me years of practice and if you can live 30 seconds at a time that doesn’t leave much time to start thinking negative.

Once you’ve conquer it you can actually live more positive than negative and it’s so nice to feel like that.

I’m at the moment working hard on my self belief system and have set my self a great set of words to speak out loud when doubt negative are suddenly thought.

My new one is I was born not to fail and to fail is not an option no matter how many times it takes to get right.

Later on you succeed at every thing you do first time.

Guess what it makes you not only think positive but also feel positive which lets to feel invisible at anything you set your mind to

Have much fun all

T

[Want2BHappy3]

That’s Easier said than done especially when bad things Happen. I started a new job which wasn’t easy to get when so many people are unemployed and I’m a senior citizen bottom of the list to hire. I woman bumped into me and accused me of touching her??? I apologizee even though it wasn’t my fault. (Customers are always Right). She made a BIG deal about it, asking for my supervisors name my name. If people are that afraid of catching the Virus? They need to keep their ASS Home!!! I’m afraid to catch it too!!! It’s nice that your able to keep Positive, Not everyone can obtain that mental state. Best Wishes 🙏😷

[Jojo3126]

I am struggling so much with being positive... it’s like my brain locks up and I can’t see or think of anything other than what I’m worried and stressed about. My depression and anxiety are so strong they overcome me and it’s hard to see anything else but I hope to get to think like you.

[teen_anxiety]

I agree with you though it can be hard at times expressing gratitude is a wonderful help and healer even at times.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Look at

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The short answer is, yes. My coach started me on journaling gratitude's, meditation, affirmations, and wins.

[Gardeningd]

Not today

My life has been full of negatives and some days I can’t help

[Hidden]

I used self destructive behavior especially when I was younger. When someone said something nice to me or about me I didn't trust them and would sometimes reply with a negative or critical statement. The problem is that it is self destructive but I didn't know how to stop it and see the effect it was having on others. I imagine it ruined some opportunities in my life.

[Agora1]

JW, I learned positivity through a dear friend who's oldest daughter had severe Cerebral Palsy. She was unable to walk or talk but scooted around in a motorized wheel chair.

Whenever they would visit me, I'd watch in disbelievement as the mother would carry her daughter into the house on her back and then put her into a folding wheelchair.

After that, she would always say "Life is Good".

If she thought life was good then who was I to disagree.

I started putting more focus on being grateful for what I had in life as

well as accepting Anxiety as a smaller disruption in living my life.

It's all about how we accept what we've been given to deal with. xx

[AnxM in reply to Agora1]

What a beautiful friend you have, Agora1. Whether life is good or not is how we see it, isn't it?

There are wealthy people who live in luxury, and yet they kill themselves. Conversely, there are people who live in squalor, who go to bed hungry, and yet they have such joy and hope.

Our minds are everything. And it is up to us to cultivate it. Yes, emotions are terribly overwhelming - anxiety and depression can take control of the best of us, but it's our job to fight it. To say, I can do better. I can feel better.

I know this. And so I fight. Everyday. Sometimes, every minute. Sometimes I lose, but I won't give up. I have only one life to live. And so much to do.

Sending love, healing and peace to all who need it. xx

[Agora1 in reply to AnxM]

AnxM what a beautiful response. You touched my heart for sure.

Life is so precious Just ask the people left behind with broken hearts

to all those lost with this Pandemic. Sending you a gentle hug xx

[AnxM in reply to Agora1]

Thank you, Agora1. Hugging you back!

[jrgallaghe]

I KNOW THIS ALL TOO WELL . BUT STILL STRUGGLING

[AnxM]

Thanks for the important reminder, JW621.

I am thankful that I am alive and well, that the people I love are alive and well.

I am grateful that I have a roof over my head and food to eat, and that I go to bed each night, feeling safe and warm.