Sad, angry and tired - f*ck Lupus

[LordKnowsImTrying]

I lost a sister yesterday to Lupus. Sweetest person ever. She was only 32. It was so unexpected. And my sadness has been more than I’ve ever had before. We weren’t super close...but she was a good person. While i am sad... My SO offered condolences and an ear yesterday. But today...nothing. Who abandons a partner when their partner is grieving? Who does that? I’m struggling with sadness for her and anger toward him.

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry, and this has to be difficult happening so close to Christmas. Maybe no one means to abandon you, it could be he just isn't sure what to say or do to help.

[LordKnowsImTrying in reply to Hidden]

Its always extremely disappointing when people don’t give you, what you give them. It’s hard to accept that people don’t always value you, the way you value them. It just puts a heavier weight on how I’m feeling right now. I don’t know which thought makes me cry more.

[Agora1]

I'm so truly sorry for the sudden loss of your sister. I'm also sorry you are not

getting the comfort you need right now from your SO. You'd be surprised how

people may act during a time of grieving. He may be unable to convey his sympathy

and support for you at this time, because he has never loss anyone close to him.

Don't waste your anger on him. It is what it is right now. This is your time to grieve

in your own way. We here on the forum know of loss and pain. We care xx

[LordKnowsImTrying in reply to Agora1]

It takes nothing to ask someone how they are doing. That would’ve meant the world to me.

[Agora1 in reply to LordKnowsImTrying]

I know dear and I'm sorry about that. xx

[Hidden]

Sorry for your loss. It's a nasty illness