Can't control how I feel

[Starfish_]

I feel like I have no control over my emotions. The smallest thing (if anything) will set me off or completely switch my mood and I can't change or stop it. Im talking irrationally upset over something I know is not a big deal. I can reason my way through my feelings and why I shouldn't be angry or upset or anxious but it doesn't change the fact that I still feel it. And normally I'm all for feeling your emotions and shit but I'm tired of have zero say in how I'm feeling. Im just being pulled along for the ride, at the mercy of my brain, and it sucks. I dont know what to do

[Beevee]

Don't do anything. Let your emotions run riot, let those thoughts come, let your brain pull you in any direction and just go with the ebb and flow.

It is our resistance to those anxious thoughts and feelings that is the major reason why people stay stuck in the anxiety/depletion cycle.

Doing nothing to change your thoughts and feelings works! Over time, your emotions will return to their normal levels and your resilience to small matters will increase and able to cope far more easily.

[GoldenMaknae97]

I know what you mean because this happens to me a lot, too. especially in the mornings when I feel the lowest. I try to control my thoughts and go in a positive direction but it doesn't work. I think it may help to just become an observer in our own heads. Picture yourself watching those thoughts go by, without resisting or trying to slow them down. let them run their course. I know that is way easier said than done and it's a normal response to try and take control. You are not alone!

[FearIsALiar]

Hi Starfish_ ! I can totally relate to this post. The smallest things just kill my vibe all the time. I will be having a great day and one thing goes wrong and my whole day is ruined. You’re not alone 💗

[13ga]

again - much i'd like to say here; but short for now...

several lines of thought:

rapid mood shifts - could be due to stress; chemical imbalance; denial or suppression of emotions - all these things can be corrected.

controlling emotions - not sure that's possible; we can control our ACTIONS; we can control how we REACT to emotions; but don't think you can control the actual emotion - at least not in any good or healthy way. i suppressed my emotions and didn't experience most of them.... that was NOT a good thing.

the thing i'd suggest for now... start thinking about what causes a particular emotion - what set's off that feeling. sure the static on the tv made you furious - but it's not really the static... the static touched something else, and that something else is the root cause for the anger....

static was just the trigger. fury is the bullet. but there's a charge behind the bullet that propels it. try to figure out what the charge is.

more posts will definitely follow!

👍

[Hidden]

Some people are proponents of the idea of learn how to respond, not react. This is not a very easy thing to do sometimes, but it's a way of not escalating an argument with someone. I can be highly sensitive myself and it's only natural that when someone's being mean and rude towards you, you're going to want to be the same towards them. Sometimes we just need to pause before reacting and ask ourselves- is what I'm about to say going to make this situation any better??? If not, maybe I just shouldn't say it and walk away. That shows maturity. And I know there's certain people who really trigger me where it's best I get some distance from them and set some boundaries, like no, do not talk to me this way. I'm not big on trying to be popular, a couple really good friends is all I need, and I'd rather be respected than trying to be everything to everyone. Don't let someone steal your sunshine!!!💛

[13ga in reply to Hidden]

you go googoo !!!!!!

well said!!!