Some thoughts or feedback needed?? Am I overeating being to sensitive or is this an issue???

[hurtingheart1]

I would appreciate some advice or thoughts about situation with my boyfriend and want to realize if I'm overreacting over being too over sensitive about or is this an issue that im genuinely right to be upset about?? Why do I not know how to trust this I don't know??- my emotions and thoughts tell me I'm hurt that this is hurtful, thoughtless, immature and impulsive type behavior that feels disrespectful and uncaring! Am I asking too much should I be upset is this normal healthy relationship behavior?? but I don't know wher to start or have energy and time to explain and type it all out!!!! what can I do is thee a way to answer this for myself?? why do I not seem to trust my own emotions judgement and thoughts??😖

[susanjo613]

Hi hurtingheart1. I am oversensitive and often need to have my feelings validated so I get what you're saying. Sometimes I initially overreact........take some time to think things through before you react.

[hurtingheart1 in reply to susanjo613]

Thanks & yes good advice!

[hurtingheart1 in reply to hurtingheart1]

I struggle back & forth with that like its a negative label "over sensitive" tho? cause who says?-maybe a lot of others are just "under sensitive"??🤔I'm not sure really for now but I do tend to relate more with those that are more sensitive, thoughtful caring! Not perfect- but they maybe try and take an extra thought before saying something or doing something, caring and thinking how it'll come across and affect the other person- I know this is more rare though! Though there seem to be a lot of thoughtful, caring people on here!

[NewBeginning1]

Hi hurtingheart1. Without knowing what happened, I cannot tell you if you’re being over sensitive. I know I can be a little over sensitive due to depression. Also, Many of us get into the wrong relationship just because we don’t want to feel lonely. My advice is wait until you cool off and talk to him again. Loneliness is still better than a toxic relationship.

[hurtingheart1 in reply to NewBeginning1]

thank you and yes I agree with you - I need to find out for sure if it is or if it's my expectations being to high in someone am truly not sure yet??? 1 thing is he is a morally good person overall- doesn't drink,do drugs, cheat, has always been responsible and has good job, volunteers &helps others very freely, loves family! there are just things in our relationship that are confusing communication and personality flaws/quirks and believe he has add not diagnosed but we did discuss he feels he has it I think I do as well so both of us having that is hard and me with depression as well!!

[NewBeginning1 in reply to hurtingheart1]

I am glad you see the good in him. Just keep working on improving your communication. Best of luck!

[hurtingheart1 in reply to NewBeginning1]

Thank you!! I appreciate the caring thoughts