Putting my feelings out there

[Justagirl23]

Haven’t been here for a few months. But I am back home and I just feel so anxious everytime. I feel like everyone around me is looking at me and judging of how fat I have become and how ugly I look. My mind is in a really dark place right now. And I just needed to say this, to put it out there. How I feel. Cause I am just so so tired.

[FearIsALiar]

You’re definitely not alone! I struggle with social anxiety and ALWAYS feel like people are judging me. But I try and tell myself “So what if they are judging or looking at me? I have no one to impress but MYSELF”

[Justagirl23 in reply to FearIsALiar]

Thanks for the support

[Nothelpless]

You are not alone. There is a lot of judgment out there in the world and sometimes the people closest to us are doing the judging. That is on them though. They need to be better. I have recently gained a whole bunch of weight but I am perfectly perfect. If and when I am ready to reduce it I will hit the gym, but that will be my choice. I am sure that you are equally perfectly perfect in your own way.

Something new that I am trying to do to alleviate negative feelings is not to look inwards. I am trying to look outwards. For my birthday, I am going to focus on projects that I love but will help others. That is something that I know will make me happy, and I do not need others' approval. For this to work, I make sure that the other people that I am trying to help are not specifically only the people that have judged me. I don't like to focus too much of my energy on those people.

I know that I rambled off a bit there, but I hope that it helps. Do not hesitate to write back

[Justagirl23 in reply to Nothelpless]

Thanks for the kind words and you are in the right. They need to do better. That is a nice way of alleviating negative feelings.

[Nothelpless in reply to Justagirl23]

You are welcome

[pink318]

Hi- Welcome back!

You are not alone. When I was in college, I used to be so timid and whenever I was in a group, I was not comfortable because I was thinking that people were judging me. I learned from listening to inspirational talks that I cannot control what others think about me. All I need to do is be myself and do what is right.

Thank you for sharing. I hope you will find comfort here. Feel free to post anytime.