am i being irrational?

[langedechu]

i am so so sorry bc this is like my third post of the day or whatever (yikes). but there's just something else that's been bothering me a ton lately and maybe it's because I'm not really an adult yet or whatever but it just annoys tf outta me when people tell me what to do with my time like they know my schedule better than i do. i do admit sometimes i get carried away in the things I'm doing and then forget about something I'm supposed to go to or a task I'm supposed to do etc. but when i know what I'm doing its just annoying when someone tells me i don't. like for example my parents always expect me to be within eye range so they can watch me while I'm in the house, and i constantly feel like i don't get enough alone time and personal space. when i try to do things on my own then they tell me to come downstairs and ask what i was doing like i was committing a crime or some shit in my bedroom, like hello, do i ask about every single thing you do during the day, uh no. and just today I'm playing gh3 and then my dad tells me to turn it off and work. idk if me being annoyed by this is stupid because, well yeah, I'm a student and need to get my stuff done. but the thing he wants me to work on is due in a week and yesterday i was working for 5 hours straight on homework. like I'm tryna catch a break here, can't i wait a little bit? and this particular assignment i can finish in maybe 1 or 2 days and I've already started it so why do i have to work on it now, in this moment. maybe I'm just procrastinating and this whole post is stupid but idrk. ok also it pisses me off when my parents tell me to take my makeup off or change my clothes. ik this is all bc they believe that i don't need it, but i like to experiment and change my style on different days. like if it's too much, then oh well, but who tf cares if i wear it, i for sure dgaf. and in lots of cases my jean shorts are too short so i am ordered to change and i get that this is all to keep me safe or whatever but what i feel looks good on me i feel i shouldn't have to cover. idk maybe this is just me being a young person and not understanding my parents brains but i just don't like being treated this way and i feel like i deserve a little respect once in a while.

[Efthimiades]

Thx for your post this morning I got the job and I fucking deserve it. You look my sons age (18) as long as he gets good grades i leave him alone .... I'm sure you're a good person, you have a genuine , kind heart. Thanks again and fuk em all.

[langedechu in reply to Efthimiades]

lets go!!! i knew you would get it, and you're right you DO deserve it. thank you for saying I'm a good person, I really try to be and I would like to help as many people as possible while I'm still here (however long that may be). say hi to your son for me. - hugs

[Efthimiades in reply to langedechu]

Will do, 😊 thanks!!

[teen_anxiety]

you are definitely not alone here I struggle with this too and so I do not really have tips because I am trying to figure it out also, but we can figure this out together.

[langedechu in reply to teen_anxiety]

i'm down for that

[teen_anxiety in reply to langedechu]

cool, let's do it, if you learn something let me know and if I learn something I will let you know.

[Hidden]

I agree. You seem old enough for them to trust you and what you choose to do with your time. It also helps build independence. It makes sense why you feel annoyed, I think I would to.

My dad used to always make me and my sister change if we were wearing something “too short” according to him or “unprofessional” like sweats to school. At the time we hated it, but looking back it made me realize I had a father who really cared and I appreciate it now. I wish I wasn’t so bratty with him before.

Nonetheless, it’s frustrating because it’s not likely you’ll ever be too underdressed or overdressed and I’m sorry that you are feeling this way. I hope you get enough work done so you can enjoy your free time and things you want to do. You deserve it for staying on track with school keep it up

[langedechu in reply to Hidden]

thank you for the support 🖤

[FearIsALiar]

How old are you?

Also I can relate a bit. I don’t have my drivers license and I’m in my 20’s but everyone around me keeps bugging me about it! I think I’m just gonna say I have it so they shut up about it 😂

[langedechu in reply to FearIsALiar]

i don't really want to give you my age, but i'm younger than you and I'm still in school and all that

[FearIsALiar in reply to langedechu]

That’s fine!

[vballen]

OMG!! TELL ME WHY IM GOING THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THING!!! okay so like my parents are always on my case about what I'm constantly doing but it's because of my past. when I was 15 I used to do a lot of bad things and always get in trouble. Since then (I'm now 17) I barely get any alone time. for example, I can't be home alone anymore, I cant do online school by myself in my room I have to do it at my dad's office, I can't go out with friends anymore, and now they are on my case about how I dress. I ABSOLUTELY hate itttttt!!! I'm so tired of my parents telling me what I can and cannot do. I mean I get it they are my parents and I have to listen to them but I hate when they try to change who I am. I don't really have any advice to give because I am also going through this but all I can say is I'm happy I'm not alone. I just wish I was a normal teenager that can go out with friends and enjoy life. Instead, I'm stuck in a bubble and I can't escape.

[langedechu in reply to vballen]

WOAH WHY ARE WE THE SAME PERSON. i recently just ruined my relationship with my parents bc I did some shit, got in trouble, and now I have to be watched 24/7. i also don't have a phone anymore. it's nice. like I just need some time to myself, do you really gotta be up my ass all the time?? oh and I forgot to write this in my post but my mom like thinks that my depression is a joke or something. she asks me "how are you" and stuff like that but whenever I try to tell her what i'm feeling she just says "oh well this and that, and there are so many people who have it worse, just be happy" and all that shit. Like," just be happy" is literally the stupidest thing I've ever heard. it sucks cuz she's never really had to go through what i'm experiencing and she just doesn't understand. i hate it. and her mom (my grandma) passed away this summer and I know it's been hard for her but you can't just talk about how she died when i need to tell someone my feelings. she tries to be empathetic but then the conversation just ends up being all about her and the struggles she's been through this year. i understand. i wish that she didn't have to go through all of that trauma. but we're talking about me here. i'm struggling. won't you help me? a girl on here shared one of her poems and it was about how someone is so thirsty, but every time they ask for a drink, they get sand in a red solo cup. that's how i'm feeling. because of some recent events i ruined the relationship with my parents and a shit ton of my friends. she acts like she's the only one who lost someone. it's so fucking agitating. anyways i'm glad that we're here for each other. little by little we'll get out of this bubble and I hope that it'll all be over soon.

[vballen in reply to langedechu]

IM GOING TO LITERALLY SCREAMMMMMM!!! AHHHH!!! okay, so I also don't have a phone anymore because of my past.... yes I know I'm 17 years old without a phone its CRAZYYY. but I've realized it's so much better. like you don't have to worry about social media and being bashed or anything. you get to focus on yourself, but there are also some downs to that. you feel like your the odd one out because every teenager is talking about this and that. I'm sorry about you and your mom's loss. My mom was like that too. every time I tried to tell her about my depression or anxiety she would just always make it about her and I hated it. I have just tried different chat rooms about my feelings online and that has really helped me. I really recommend it. I have seen that you don't feel comfortable putting your age out there but I wanna talk about this and help each other out more in-depth. so pleaseeee feel free to message me on this so we can help each other out.