has someone gone this far with social anxiety?

[Chajj]

i hate even to remember the date but some where in 90s during my teenage i had a crash on a girl which took me years to approach until one day i stopped her by calling her name she stopped then my mind went blank there was like 30seconds silence until she say who are you why are you calling my name soon i was fully sweating and shaking i felt as if i was out off my body then the was another long silence until she was gone we were attending the same school so i decided to skip full week going to school but one of my teacher came home and forced me the fourth day and that was the last time i ever put my self into such

[FearIsALiar]

I struggle with social anxiety as well. It was very bad when I was attending school. I would get so embarrassed, my face would turn red and everyone would notice and even LAUGH at me. Which made things worse. I wouldn’t even show up to certain classes sometimes because I was afraid of those people laughing at me. In the end AVOIDANCE did not help me at all. Positive self talk will help you and also forcing yourself into those uncomfortable situations. I don’t have very strong social skills or vocabulary because I have a learning difference so it makes things very challenging..

[Chajj in reply to FearIsALiar]

I UNDERSTAND I CAN PHYSICAL force my self into uncomfortable but how about my voice which sound like never been eating for days sweating plus shaking i dont think i can force stop that

[FearIsALiar in reply to Chajj]

I have struggled with that as well. It almost like your voice is kinda shakey?? Main thing I would do if I needed a break or felt suuuper overwhelmed is I’d say “I’m going to use the bathroom I will be back” and my time in the bathroom I would pull myself together and take lots of deep breaths. Also I bring headphones everywhere I go and also a water bottle too. Water bottle is to keep me hydrated obviously and headphone are just to listen to music and do a quick guided mediation if I need to.

[Chajj in reply to FearIsALiar]

you know with all my weird problems i used to think god might have mistaken and put animal thoughts and feelings in me i just felt like a zombie since nearly 90% of my life has and still an introverted one i lake a lot of social skills im really gonna benefit from what you always share thank you so much🙏

[FearIsALiar in reply to Chajj]

You’re very welcome 😊😊😊