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[backpackfolder]

“How do you feel?” I hate that question. I do not know and I cannot answer that question within the very few seconds that is considered socially acceptable. If you wanted the true answer, take a seat. I would have a story. I am not “vibing”, I have diagnosed mental illness that I continue to invalidate and ignore. Im on day #??? no fucking clue. I hope to restart my days once I move out.

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Hi backpackfolder.

I resonate with your answer. People expect me to know how I feel and sum it up for them in one word and be done. That's not me. Plus it seems my feelings change as I am summing them up.

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry I ask others this too. I will totally respect however you feel, whenever.

[backpackfolder in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, Andrea. I’m sure others respect you and your understanding/patience. If it is someone I do not know too well, or someone that does know about my personal issues, then an “I’m good” seems to do the trick (and by trick I mean they won’t worry about me). There may be people that like the “How are you” question.

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I agree.I guess if there were more people who generally "cared" about the answer I think people like us would talk n say how we feel ..with it all out on the table.

I personally find it cringeworthy when asked that question because I know they really could care less n they r just being polite in there minds.

Does it all sound negative ,yeah..but it's our society.

[backpackfolder in reply to Hidden]

Yep, I’ve told myself “I’m not negative. I’m realistic.” When someone has passed my brain’s test as to whether they’re trustworthy or not, then I’ll slowly say more than “I’m good,” and maybe even branch out with a little “I’m good, just tired.”

[Hidden in reply to backpackfolder]

Same here.Its sad we have to do this but i feel it's us trying to protect ourselves from being hurt by others.

[backpackfolder in reply to Hidden]

and yet this is considered living. I hope you that you are able to reverse those thoughts and cherish every word you say. Sorry I give shitty advice

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Unless others change I will continue to protect my mental health n deal on my own.Sure would be nice to have someone genuinely listen n care about what I'm saying,but I'm not doing to bad dealing the way i have.

Not shitty advice btw.

Best to u as well.

[Treehugger75]

Unfortunately, I have found that many people don’t seem to care or even listen to the answer anyway. It feels very dismissive and hurtful. I think I’ve reached the “0 fucks left to give” level for the moment in regards to many people. I usually respond with “I don’t even know anymore” or “I’ve been better”. If someone really cares, their response could further the conversation into something meaningful for both people....... but in my experience, many people just brush it off as casual small talk and nothing more. I’m kinda new here and hoping this community is more sensitive and caring that most of the normies out there.

[backpackfolder in reply to Treehugger75]

So far everyone seems caring or at least they can get a hold of it. I never understood why the “How are you” question is always asked first and then brushed off to get to the meat of a conversation. People change from the last time someone saw them (even if it was a day ago) so get a nice update and then explore their presence. Hopefully you find a nice place here on the site : )

[Treehugger75 in reply to backpackfolder]

Exactly! It seems to me that “how are you” became an extension of “hello” at some point for many people. The brush off is terrible- seriously, I wish people wouldn’t even ask if they don’t really care to know the honest answer

[backpackfolder in reply to Treehugger75]

Omg yes. I wonder when “how are you” started to go from being a genuine question to being just a transition for a conversation. it leaves a bad taste in mouth that other things I say will also be brushed away.

[Treehugger75 in reply to backpackfolder]

No kidding, genuine people seem harder to find in this world. If I’m in a mood, I’ll straight up answer “terrible” just to see if they are even listening lol. Sad but true - at least i can try to use their blatant disinterest to amuse myself 🤷‍♀️🤪