Deceived, Ashamed, Hopeless

[LonelyJ0]

Feeling like a fool to think someone I was in a relationship for 10 years would be a real friend. It’s funny how quickly people can change on you. How can you let go of someone when it’s obvious they have let go of you? On top of being alone 90% of the time. I don’t know how much more isolation, loneliness and empty nights I can handle

[Hidden]

Hi, I also feel like a fool for believing in people I shouldn't have. And I know it's terribly hard to let go of someone. But I am sure that you will meet someone who deserve your trust someday.

[LonelyJ0 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. This is the last time this person will hurt me. I am not sure I can love again, the heart is delicate and mine is severely damaged. Thanks for your words, they mean a lot for real.

[Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi. I’m Andy. I’m so very sorry to hear about your terrible experience. You are no fool. Not at all. It can hurt us so hard when we are let down so badly. But I’m going to say this. Do not stop believing in the goodness of others. Because there are many wonderful people out there who couldn’t imagine letting people down. Supportive, caring, compassionate people.

I always say to think about what brought you joy in the past. Learning new things. Volunteering can lead to friendships, and love. Volunteering can also bring you so much joy and pride.

An Aunt of mine, sadly gone now. She would go to our local Hospice at night. She never told a soul. She would sit with the dying. Comfort and hold them. Remarkable woman. Remarkable because she had health problems.

Please take hold of life and shake it.

Here if you two talk.

Andy🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[LonelyJ0 in reply to Wiganladlovesapie]

Thank you so much for your words. They truly mean a lot. Being let down so many times has made me loose hope in people’s intentions as a whole. What brought me joy in the past.... sad to say but I can’t recall what brought me joy in the past. I feel so alone in my thoughts but I’m working toward speaking with a psychiatrist. Everyday is a struggle, some better than other but I’m sure we call feel that way. Thank you for the suggestions. Engaging with people is hard due to social anxiety. With help maybe one day soon I can step out of this bubble I’ve created and can live life to the fullest.

[Wiganladlovesapie in reply to LonelyJ0]

Hi again.

You are so very welcome.

It’s true that when we are let down it slowly eats away at our self esteem. It leaves us feeling vulnerable and sometimes feeling ashamed. We feel taken in by certain people. But now is when we take back our lives. We don’t let them continue to control our emotions. We are in charge of our own happiness, our own feelings, our own thoughts and our own path in life. We don’t let them win.

I was terrified of getting back out there. But we have to. So I signed up to become a Volunteer at our local hospital. Terrified. I was there for 9 years. Made lots of friends and a relationship. Eventually I started volunteering elsewhere and found the love of my life. We’ve been together 7 years.

If you can’t remember what brought you joy then make new. I decided to improve my knowledge so I enrolled in online courses. I started to learn Calligraphy. Reading a good book, or absolutely loving listening to music. This is your time to find your happiness and joy.

Please remember that you are not alone. We are here. And we care.

You will absolutely live your life to the fullest soon. That’s your goal.

Here if you need an ear.

Andy🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry you've been hurt. It feels really awful to be betrayed. Just remember that it's their problem and not yours. There are lots of good people in the world, but there are also a share of those who think they have the right to hurt others. No one has that right, so I don't know where those people get that idea from. It's a shame. I'm so sorry. You didn't deserve that; no one does.

[LonelyJ0 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your words and support. Good people are hard to come by. One day I pray that my faith is restored in people and I can let that person I’m who comes into my life. For right now, I can’t risk being hurt again.

[Hidden in reply to LonelyJ0]

I hope so too. You're welcome.🙂

[pink318]

Hi- I understand how you feel because I also experienced the feeling of being betrayed by a very close friend. I cried, prayed and slowly moved forward. I’m still friends with her but we’re not that close like we used to.

I’m very sorry to hear this. I hope you feel better soon. Keep believing that there are nicer people out there.

Please feel free to share anytime. I hope you will find comfort here. God bless.

[LonelyJ0 in reply to pink318]

Thank you for your words. I’m praying everyday for healing and that God will heal my heart and remove this pain.