Hopelessness

[Justsomedude]

I don't know if any of you have ever felt this way, but I am almost completely hopeless and it is the most miserably fearful feeling I've ever experienced. Everything that happens to me or to the people I love tears me down. And feeling this way effects every part of my life. It steals everything - my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health, my way of parenting.. I can't be the parent that my dad was and it sucks because I want my son to know everything is going to be okay when hard times hit, but I just can't give what I dont have - hope. It effects my decisions, my relationships. Does anybody know what I'm talking about?

[Epifany]

Hi, yes I do know that feeling. It sux and I am upset about it as well. I try and think I will be and do better to sustain a good mood and then I get just worn down with the 'why bother' 'what does it matter anyway' and the worst...'I can't seem to get it together so what is the point'.

I have that awful loop: aw finally things are good, then okay...I can try and be positive its okay, I am starting to feel like shit again - OMG - what can I do-nothing is working!, to... why is life so hard - do I really have to stay here - this is more than anyone should have to bare ETC

I am not sure why this happens really...I always wonder... but it seems to be a combination of things that cause us to go this way. Trying to understand. Is so painful. Still don't really know.

I am sorry you are feeling hopeless right now!

As you know it always turns around.

Try listening to any of these amazing rants for 15+ min to get anywhere with it...best ever heard and can work well. For gratefulness to return.

Anything from Abraham-Hicks yet I put a link here for rampage of appreciation search youtube.com/results?search_...

Love and appreciation holds the highest vibration and can pull you up faster than any other emotion.

[Epifany]

Ya, don't be too hard on yourself either. Both my mom, dad and brother are all stellar in most areas and I am nowhere as responsible as they all are. I even wonder, are we from the same family? Sometimes it gets to me! Yet most the time I am just baffled about it and other times I embrace my differences ... somehow. I hope you do try and find Peace my friend.

[lillyofthevalley37]

I am suffering from depression for the first time in my life due to CBD oil so I know where you are coming from

I wish I could help you all I can say for sure is about Jesus but you don't seem to be the type that would take Jesus seriously but amidst my horrible depression I know that Jesus loves me and I have been saved by Him

Diet wise you should take fish oil capsules for the omega 3 also maybe try GABA

I feel your pain and I wish u could feel better

[Justsomedude in reply to lillyofthevalley37]

What makes you think I wouldn’t take Jesus seriously?

[lillyofthevalley37 in reply to Justsomedude]

When I mention Jesus a lot of people roll their eyes

[ConcernedCaliMom in reply to lillyofthevalley37]

What do u mean your depression is due to CBD Oil usage?

[lillyofthevalley37 in reply to ConcernedCaliMom]

I took CBD oil and it gave me major deppression and no appetite

[JAYnLA]

Yes. I think hopelessness is the essence of depression. Mine comes in waves and it always passes, but when it's here it can be quite convincing. Ultimately, though, I think it is a lie of perception.

[Hidden]

Hi

How long have you been feeling this way?

[Justsomedude in reply to Hidden]

About 6 years.

[Jvicks]

In the short 2 years that I have suffered, hopelessness has been there. It’s overwhelming pull is alluring. It screams for me to allow consumption of my soul. So many times, that sounds like a glorious plan. If you ask yourself which part of the mind is controlling your thoughts, emotional or logical or a combination. (Yes, I’m the DBT person! 😂) You will realize hopeless is just a feeling. It will pass! Your brain is lying. Get help from professionals. It works. I wish you happiness! Take care!

[Justsomedude in reply to Jvicks]

Thank you so much.

[TickingClock]

i feel you Justsomedude, at times i feel alone, no one gets me, understands me and my actions, sometimes i tear myself down as a parent, if i am too strict or too harsh or if i just give up too easily. i am afraid of every action i do has a negative reaction.

the good first step is always to talk about it, at least its a start for me. this webesite has helped me in a lot of ways just to get my mess in my head out in actual words and sentences. hearing people's stories and beliefs, and actually seeing that i am not alone, helps.

i hope this helps. your post helped me =)

[Justsomedude in reply to TickingClock]

Thank you. That's great advice.

[bluestars725]

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. It's exhausting. I know this feeling very well. It is the foundation symptom of my depression, and my main way of telling when depression is creeping back in. It effects every part of my life, and when my anxiety and depression are hitting me at the same time it is even worse. It manifests in a "what's the point?" kind of feeling for me. I can't make decisions, I have no motivation, and often feel alone in a crowded room.

[Justsomedude in reply to bluestars725]

I'm sorry and I know the feeling.

[Windy101]

I know what you're talking about. Feeling hopeless is a symptom of depression. Almost without exception, depressed people feel hopeless, worthless, undeserving of love, and as though they cannot do anything right, I've been stressed out recently, which kicked off my symptoms. I would be laughing and crying on and off all in the same day. A few things helped me feel better, one of them going to my doctor. Universally, the hopelessness you are feeling is part of depression. If almost every depressed person feels hopeless, that tells me that it's an illusion, a lens that comes with this illness.

If it persists, I would check in with your doctor or therapist so that they can work with you on feeling better. I'm sure you are the center of your son's world and that he loves you very much. Hang in there, and try to do something that uplifts you, even if it's very small, like taking your son outside and teaching him something about bugs or trees or flowers or whatever happens to be around.

[Justsomedude in reply to Windy101]

Thank you.

[SirGrits]

Hey Justsomedude, you've (& me by reading, thanks all) already received such great advice for this life. My ears perked up when Jesus came up. I'm a Christian myself and owe my salvation to Him. Amongst other things, that relationship (with Jesus) gives me perspective, that there is something greater than this life to be a part of. The mechanics of that relationship are fascinating. When I need comfort, He sends people into my life and/or shows the people that are already there. When I need help for my anxiety, He sends me new techniques, or reminds of ones I already know. The thing of it is, I don't always recognize it until after the dust settles--even then, I miss many blessings.

At any rate, I strongly encourage ramping up your connection to Jesus thru prayer, thru church participation, etc.

Part of the idea is that when we try to be a blessing rather than receiving help, we end up with the help we were seeking. Prayers bro.

[Justsomedude in reply to SirGrits]

Great advice, muh man.

[ConcernedCaliMom]

How you doing now Justsomedude?