As anyone ever had a life where they were full of resentment for people for many years and you have changed to being positive?
I just wonder if it is possible for me to change or have I set myself for failure? For the past 15 years I have had a hard time of forgiving others and caring what they think.
I would like to get out of this cycle .
I hope it's not too late for me at 43.
Any suggestions?
Your post touched my heart today...I remember being stuck in that "cycle"of unforgiveness for years.
Maybe the best advice I got when I was in the "cycle" was "Grieve the shattered dreams and the good times." My ex- was unfaithful and more...yet, I dreamed of growing old with him and going to our grandchildren's baseball games
and in many ways he was very good father and husband. I had to grieve those aspects and be thankful for them, as well as my ex-. When I forgave him, I felt a weight lift off of my shoulders.
It took a long time, and I am not sure the "cycle" is ever OVER, but I was able to break the free. Ultimately, I had to CHOOSE to forgive. It wasn't fair what was done to me, nor was it my fault...yet holding onto my resentment just hurt me.
Today, I thank God for my new husband and our very different marriage.
Well since you have put it in those terms. I feel like it is possible for me to forgive. Thank you so much.
You're welcome! Please keep posting!
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