So lonely

[Ringlove]

I’m not young like most on here. I’m pretty strong, never let myself get to the point my dad did 16 years ago when he took his own life. But I feel so alone and my will to fight is dwindling. Robin Williams said nothing is worse than being surrounded by people and yet feeling alone. I have 4 adult kids. They love me. But they are living their own lives, feel uncomfortable if I act any other way but strong . I’m in remission from stage 3 cancer. I got through chemo radiation and surgery. My fear of a reoccurrence makes them uncomfortable. They don’t have time to ask me how was my day. They think if I’m depressed I should get meds. My body has had enough medication I refuse to add any more. I guess I just needed to talk to someone. I have joined a few Facebook groups. They only want a big people so I always have to be chirpy when I don’t always feel that way. But they’re all I have

[Afrohair]

There are a lot of different age groups on here not just young people I’m 35 with a teenager pregnant with 3 other children my children may not be adults but I understand that they do drift away as they get older my mum has struggled with us getting older and not being in touch as much as she’d like I don’t feel they don’t care to ask you about your day they are just very busy like you say! Life is busy you could call them instead of it being one way ! do you have any other support face to face rather than groups a church member perhaps or friend?there are usually help lines who can help you come to terms with your cancer as you say your in remission praise that! try and move on from that for now you deserve to enjoy life and be happy the cancer has become your past you fought it!for now please do not dwell on it !you do sound depressed from your post it’s understandable you don’t want more medication.do what’s best for you but don’t dwell on the past any longer you’ve got to keep living and enjoy life.you don’t have to be chirpy but what are you achieving being down?its ok to be down but how long are you going to be down for only you can control that

[Dolphin14]

I'm glad to hear you made it through your fight with cancer. That's a very difficult road.

I agree with Afrohair, your kids are busy.

I have two grown children. I reach out by text every few day if I don't hear from them. Communication works both ways. It sounds like

they want you to enjoy life now that your cancer battle is over.

Are you in therapy? I know you don't want meds. Sounds like you do want quality of life and enjoyment. That's the reason I take meds. Therapy is not enough for me.

You are not alone. There are many of us here. Keep posting.

[Hidden]

There are older people here too, once you start chatting to different people you'll no doubt come across many different age groups.

I'm so sorry your having such a tough time, but keep coming here to chat, there's so many caring members and you can get comfort and often support from people who understand. We don't judge and we care for each other xxx

[Solarm]

They are not all you have, you also have all of us now. Opening up about your feelings is one of the best things you can do for yourself because talking about it helps take your negative thoughts off your shoulders. So happy for you that you are cancer free, try to enjoy your day by day without the worry of it coming back. Hopefully it will not be the case but if it eventually does, then cross that bridge when you get to it. Right now, enjoy, do all the things you couldn't do when you had the cancer. Try to do all the things you enjoyed before you knew you had cancer, when you were just yourself living life. Try to live for the now, one day at a time