So lonely

[dglen0826]

I hate living alone. I get so lonely and I feel so different from other people sometimes. I’m not interested in what other people find entertaining. My parents are so disconnected with their feelings that as much as they love me they can’t support me the way I need. I feel so alone. I hate feeling so alone and sad.😔

[anxiousoutcast]

I’m sorry to hear that you feel alone. Even if you’re family may not be able to support you, know that the community on HealthUnlocked is here for you!! pm me if you wanna chat have you been going on walks? That helps me not go sane from being in the house a lot.

[anxiousoutcast]

Call you’re friends or other family members even FaceTime them or zoom them so u don’t feel so alone

[dglen0826 in reply to anxiousoutcast]

Thanks for your support. I appreciate that. I feel like when I get in that mode sometimes I feel stuck. It’s like I forget what helps. Walks do help and this group really helps! Thank you!

[anxiousoutcast in reply to dglen0826]

Anytime

[All_alone]

I've lived alone now going on three years. For the most part I'm ok with it but would enjoy some companionship once in a while. However, winter especially at night is very hard.

[shodan95 in reply to All_alone]

I know that feeling. This was the first winter I experienced the longing for a companion at night... I try to minimize media consumption because I feel like the desire didn't even really come from within me, but from seeing couples and families in movies and TV.

[All_alone in reply to shodan95]

I don't think my need for a companion comes from the TV. I have it on for sound but I really don't watch it. Just someone to talk to, maybe cook and eat with is what I crave.

[shodan95]

I am experiencing a similar thing. Feeling like a failure seeing other people in relationships and I am always alone. My parents were similar to yours. Try your hardest to understand your parents are never going to be perfect, but that YOU can be better. I find that journaling kind of takes the sting out of being super lonely sometimes. Put the work in now to learn how to take care of yourself and prioritize self care and mental health. I hope you feel better soon.

[dglen0826 in reply to shodan95]

Thank you so much! I really appreciate that!

[Ubud2021]

Uhh, hi 👋

This post spoke to me. I live alone as well. (But currently staying “back at home” for the lock down.) But I’ve lived alone for about 8 years. Some roommates here and there. But, not for long. I’ve always enjoyed my solitude more than having roommates. Which is weird because why feel lonely some days? I consider myself an outcast kind of. I’m just not the type of person people really connect to right away, or I’m not the type of person that most people “get.” I’m very chill, and laid back. Honestly, I’d be happy doing just about anything. But, I don’t like surprises. I hate shopping, I don’t have a Facebook. People just tend to think I’m weird because most people judge right away without trying to get to know someone. And honestly these days, it hard to find anyone to connect with!! Because people seem to not try, or put on an act for everyone else. It’s frustrating. And lonely.

[shodan95 in reply to Ubud2021]

I can relate to what you're saying. Trying to find a partner or even just someone to connect with is extremely difficult it feels like. I try to stay positive about it and keep putting myself out there though, but with minimal expectations. Both of my parents live alone and they seem happy. If I can't find a partner, I just hope I can still be happy and live a fulfilled life. I honestly feel like half the problem is people judge you for being alone, so you start to judge yourself and think something is wrong with you.

[Ubud2021 in reply to shodan95]

Yeah, for some reason, society likes to tell people that it’s “weird” or “odd” living on your own. I live in Utah, and most people my age are married with 4 kids by now! When people ask me if I have roommates, I say no! I live alone! (: and some look at me like they feel bad for me, but try not to show it. But, with my experience, roommates are just too much! As far as the relationship things goes, I’ll put myself out there too once in awhile. I just feel like, as of right now, I’d love to work on myself a little bit more before I open up to someone again. Be more confident with where I am in life. But, us humans were wired for connection. So of course we crave it. I hope you start feeling better 💕

[dglen0826 in reply to shodan95]

Yes I completely understand that! I’m 42 and single. The one thing I wanted since I was little was to get married and have babies. Oh well. I guess you have to look at it in a way where, would you be able to do what you do now if your life were different?

[dglen0826 in reply to Ubud2021]

I’m the same. I feel like I can entertain myself because there’s always something interesting I want to read or listen too. I don’t get bored much, but I love connecting with people. I’m glad we have this group to support each other!