Alone Alone Alone

This is my first time on this site. Wondering how many others feel utterly and completely alone. Even though I am married and have two children and have four sisters I still feel completely alone most all of the time.

[Agora1]

Welcome rescuerocks ! You will find many others who feel as you do.

Loneliness has nothing to do with the number of people around us but

has to do with how we feel about ourselves. I'm glad you are here with

us. xx

[Africschoice in reply to Agora1]

I love this statement "loneliness has nothing to do with the number of people around us" soooo true. With you all the way.

[WiltedFlower]

welcome! what a great place to join- get ready to not feel alone anymore! Everyone here is so friendly and kind, that you won't be able to help yourself but talk to us all. A very warm welcome to you, rescuerocks (I'd love to know the inspo behind your name btw)!

I completely know how you feel. Live in a house of 12 people who try to support me, doesn't feel like that, though! hehe. But I agree with Agora, it all has to do with what you feel inside. True words right there. Its about how open you are with yourself and how you let the people in your life let you in. Hopefully with help and support you will allow yourself to open up!

Take care! <3

[Hidden]

I have often felt like this, walking home from taking my children to school, feeling so lonely, then beep beep, friend drives past me waving, or recieve a text from a friend, or a senior child ( I worked at a secondary school) shouting Hey Miss ! As he cycled past. It is sometimes what our mind is telling us but in practice it's not the case that no one has time for us or is a friend.

You have to remember, people are basically only interested in themselves ( apart from a very few) and friendship is a two way thing. Do you contact your friends or sisters, or children's friends mums? Ask them round for a coffee, a walk, a trip to the shops, a chat. Sometimes being a mum is a very lonely job, but this time will pass and you will find that, with effort you can build a network and not be lonely , alone, but not lonely.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I am a pretty introverted person. I have always had a small circle of friends. I have also been disappointed too many times with thinking I have found a new friend and after a while they disappear. It's just incredibly sad to not have my immediate family to lean on. It's like they constantly "forget" that I have depression and aniexty.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes it's a sad world.

I know by experience that people don't want to know about depression etc. Like I said before, people are only interested in themselves and I find it easier to ask about them, if they're a true friend they will ask about you.

Depression and anxiety is something that people don't want to hear about, because it's infectious and gets others down to hear it, that is basically it.

Its like bringing the Grim Reaper to a party! I just avoid those kind of situations now, only going when I feel upbeat and sociable.

I've suffered since a young teenager, work in MH, family history of it, but only if you find someone else who has it to share ( share as in listen and sympathise with too) will you find comfort.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I am glad I decided to try this site. I am not alone here! I have always been a super compassionate person who is there for anyone who needs a shoulder to lean on or an ear to listen but it rarely goes both ways. You are right-talking about depression with those that don't have it makes them uncomfortable.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I am ashamed to admit, when my mum was going through a depression, I could sense it and often stayed away, because she had no insight into depression and it made me feel very down ( strangely our moods often coincided) . It was healthier for me to stay away. Often there was nothing I could say or do to help and she was deaf to any advice. Maybe that's how my family and friends feel about me?! I don't really blame them at times.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

People who’ve never had anxiety or depression or the desire to isolate might not ever understand your thoughts.

I like to compare people like us to my youngest dog. He came from some kind of horror and had scars and food aggression and put holes through two of my other dogs a few times but with love and patience and support he is now a loving caring creature.

As long as he is understood and his needs are met...we found a way to ease his mental anguish so to speak.

Welcome

[JCPrague]

It can be a very lonely world. Some of it depends on your relationships and how family treats and relates to you. At least you have some family. I am alone and it is not a nice feeling. Loneliness is painful. Perhaps your relationship with your husband is not very fulfilling and you don't get the support you need.

[Hidden in reply to JCPrague]

I think I have learnt that you can't rely on others too close to you for support because it can damage that relationship. I have 4 lovely children and a very supportive husband who always listens, but more often than not I like to be alone. You can't rely on others to make you happy, it helps, but to be the one that is relied upon is often the key to fulfillment

[Hidden in reply to JCPrague]

Loneliness is painful-I have felt it my whole life-even though I am not truly alone. I am sorry you are alone. It seems like this is a good place to seek support and find many ears to listen and help.

[Hidden]

You may feel alone in your circle but here you can struggle with us!

[djonmars1973]

It’s Saturday evening and I live alone. Feeling a little anxious tonight and not sure why 🤔

[JCPrague in reply to djonmars1973]

Maybe it is because you are alone on Saturday evening? I feel anxious often too, if that is any consolation.

[djonmars1973 in reply to JCPrague]

Sometimes I’m fine but thinking too much doesn’t help you know but thank you

[Hidden in reply to djonmars1973]

My aniexty is as equally debilitating as my depression. Again-people that don't have to deal with it have no idea how aniexty can swallow you up and leave you unable to function. Exercise and gardening help some but sometimes when I can't function 1/2 a Xanax really helps.

[Starrynight1]

Hello, I'm new too and I feel the same. Loneliness sometimes is unbearable, even more when you feel it around other people... Hope this place will help us to feel a little less hopeless.