Going Through A lot

[LiveandLetLive42]

I haven't posted in a while. I hope everyone is hanging in there. I recently have been through a lot. I got pregnant, which my husband and I were so thrilled, but I had a miscarriage and it broke my heart. I went through weeks of miscarrying. Women don't always talk about it and I had no idea I would go through so much pain physically and emotionally. It was and is a really hard thing to go through. A few days ago, I lost a dear friend to cancer. So I am grieving the loss of my baby and my friend now. I feel sad and angry a lot. Grief is awful. And it is so painful. I guess I could use some words of encouragement. Thanks guys.

[Sillysausage234]

good to see you .....bummer you’ve had a shitty time lately 😏

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Hi Alan What song you got for me? XO

[Sillysausage234 in reply to LiveandLetLive42]

youtu.be/oh1VRLpBxc0(Not working as expected?)

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Sillysausage234]

I needed that--thank you sweet Alan!

[Starrlight]

❤️

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Starrlight]

Hi beautiful Star how are you? <3

[Starrlight in reply to LiveandLetLive42]

I just wrote a post about what I’m going through. Im struggling but could be worse. How are you right now? I can only imagine, beautiful... stay strong. (((((((((((Hug))))))))))) you ate really amazing

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Starrlight]

I just read your post. I am glad you are strong enough not to hurt yourself. I know sometimes we like the physical pain to numb the emotional pain. I am struggling with all the loss lately. It's just so sad. Thanks for being there though. You are always such a good friend :)))

[Hidden]

I'm very sorry for what you're going through. The singer Carrie Underwood has revealed she had at least 2 miscarriages and it really affected her. I believe that's why she wrote her song Cry Pretty which you can find on YouTube. And Michelle Obama has written that she had one before she had both of her daughters. Some guys don't realize what some of us women go through!!! I'm sorry about losing your friend too. Grief is grief, it sometimes really takes some time to process it.

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Hidden]

I've spoken to a handful of women who told me they had miscarriages too. It's very common especially around 7 weeks. It amazes me how we can be given something so precious and then it's taken away from us. And I know everything happens for a reason and blah blah blah, but it doesn't make it any less sad. I appreciate your kind words <3

[Ladybug9]

I'm truly sorry for your losses. People think that grief is quick but everyone grieves differently and for some, it's a few days, and others, it can take months and longer. Grieve in whatever way is best for you and not how someone else grieves. Does that make sense??

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Ladybug9]

That makes absolute sense. Everyone grieves differently. Some people can get through it quicker and others need more time. It's a process. I'm realizing that I go up and down a lot with sadness and anger. Sometimes, I get so angry about the loss of the baby and other times I get extremely sad. And losing my friend so recently, I just feel sad We are having a Memorial Service for him tomorrow. I know it will be hard, but I want to say goodbye you know? Thanks so much for your reply

[kenster1]

hey its a terrible loss you suffered and the whole family but love and togetherness and support goes a long way in terms of how we cope only a message away take care of yourself and each other in difficult times.

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to kenster1]

Awww thanks Lovebug <3 You are such a blessing in my life. Thank you for the kind words. I always appreciate them. It's been a tough couple of months. But, you are right. Love and togetherness goes a long way. And I am lucky to have that. XOXO

[LiveandLetLive42]

Thanks Bob <3

[LiveandLetLive42]

Thank you so much Faux. I don't even know where to begin with my appreciation for you and our dear friendship. It means so much to me. You always say the kindest and wise words. I'm glad I reached out on here too. It's been a while you know? I need the support. Tomorrow is the Memorial Service. My Dad is having all the guys from the Regiment march in with the Flag and Bagpipers will be playing Amazing Grace. I know it will be a hard day. And I will most likely write you afterwards. Life is wacky! All my LOVE <3

[pink318]

Hi- I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby and your friend. I agree, grieving is painful so cry when you need to. It will help you to relieve the pain. I pray for comfort and peace to surround you at this difficult time.

Please keep us posted. Take care of yourself. God bless.

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to pink318]

Awww thank you. You are so sweet. I don't know about you, but my medication doesn't let me cry! It is the weirdest thing. And when I found out I was pregnant, I started weening off but it's still in my system. I definitely cried the day I went for the ultrasound and there was no heartbeat and then when my friend passed away, but I can't seem to get it out otherwise! I'm very withdrawn. I'm seeing a therapist on Tuesday though, so maybe when I let everything out I will have a good cry.

[LiveandLetLive42]

Love you too❤️❤️❤️

[Hidden]

I am going through a lot too

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Hidden]

Do you want to talk about it? I'm here for you