I have had Major Depressive Disorder my whole life. I have had a horrible life. The label that was put on me is stupid, depressed, crazy with no self esteem. I am too nice and get stomped on by many people. My whole life consisted of being used and dumped by people, let go at all jobs, no achievements, not cared about, estranged from my son. Need I say more.
Old, No Family, No Real Friends, and ... - Anxiety and Depre...
Old, No Family, No Real Friends, and No One Cares
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I'm not sure what to say, I'm on here because I have no job myself, I've been through a lot too. I'd just buy you a cup of coffee or a beer, and we can talk about our misery. Peace.
Welcome to crap lives matter club ......we care !!
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Ha! The days of our lives soap opera.....
Sillysausage234 in reply to
At least we all speak the same language,
When is the next group meeting ?
Roxy is doing a picture puzzle I think .......kenster is the events organiser ....said something about getting a coach trip arranged....go to Loch Ness for the weekend
Nice, I think I was assigned coffee and benzos ?
Lol 
We may need another bus do to social distancing. Please let kenster know.
Also are we still sitting together?
I’m with you and the benzos on the back seat 🙂thanks in advance
Can I come please?
Is your life crap...?...can you play the tambourine ..?.can you touch your nose with your tongue..? .....if so yes you can come and join in the singalong 🎶
Yes, yes, and no 😀 x
However I have a 35 year old purple tambourine which I got free at a Prince concert.
Practice......good tip ....imagine your licking your forehead....don’t cross your eyes
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I’ll play the drums and bring some weed! What’s the secret password????
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Hey maybe we can all trade med bottles for a week and see what happens!!
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Secret password = “dead inside”
Sillysausage234 in reply to
Welcome aboard.....weed will be welcomed...Swap you for some ibs meds.
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I’ll take it!
It is so nice of you to take notice of my profile. Do you live in the USA? How old are you?
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Yes I'm in the USA, not so proud of my crazy country these days. And I am about to turn 50- please, no one remind me!!!! Where are you from?
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Hi Googoodolls,
I live in Arizona, the USA also. You are not old. You are in your prime. I was a very busy lady in my 5O's. Time does fly. I never thought my life would end up this way, although I have always had Major severe depression. Imagine, no money, no family, no friends, no son, no self esteem. Yeah, I am also not happy with the way our country is going. And this pandemic! Since things are so bad these days, I thought it would be the perfect time to check out.
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Hey, please don't say that. Times are rough for a lot of people these days. I don't have much money either, no kids at all, and I broke it off with someone I was with for 20 years. We are living in very difficult times now, it's affecting everyone.
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Is there any way you could or would want to go back to your love relationship? I, also have been in lots of relationships that didn't work out. I was divorced 25 years ago. I had a very unhappy marriage, and was glad to finally get rid of him.
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That's unfortunately where I'm at too. No, I'm not going back to him, went through enough with him. It's just as well we didn't have kids, we were struggling financially and I'm done trying to help him, I have to help myself. It's just too much grim reality. It was tough for me to leave, but no regrets. I'm taking a chance on the unknown than trying to make something work that just isn't. I tried, he's a grown man, I'm just so done.
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I'm really going through some serious mid life crisis time here, ugghhh!!!
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You are still young enough that you can make a good life for yourself.
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Good for you! At the time, I felt it was better to be on my own, than being unhappy. After my divorce, I moved to AZ to start a new life.
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Thank you, I'm living with my parents now, trying to figure my life out. This pandemic just put the world on hold. I really hope you feel better soon. Don't go thinking suicidal thoughts, I'm sure someone would be very sad if you did that. Try to improve your quality of life.🌻💕💕
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You are very lucky to be able to live with your parents. Yeah, this pandemic is holding everyone back from getting on with their lives. Well, it will give you time to research where you want to live, and give you some job ideas. Good luck to you.
goldieoldie in reply to
Hi ,bet you were full of life before ,meaning we all think we are past it and that we are of no further use to society all ourselves,what could be further from the truth Ive had a whole ihistory of mental health anxiety ,drink dependent ,agorophobia,social discomfort an i moved away from my family whe i was 28yrs only 40miles away,but they are unsupportive a dysfuctional Italian stock,1 of 8 siblings .......and none of them really care ,.......i care and keep going regardless of their lack of concern IM reasonably fit 74 half yrs young......so try and keep ageist out of the equation and we can get on well!
Hold up. I once read we all believe lies when we're hungry for truth. That being said, and forgive me because I didn't read through all the comments, but unfortunately we can be our harshest critics. You are not defined by others words. I know alot will not agree with me on this, but words only have as much power as you choose to give them. I know this wasn't much advice or anything, but maybe you needed to hear this 🙂 I've had many words said to me, I choose to overlook the rubbish that spews from people's mouths and choose to see intent and what they're actions show.
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And I have to say it cause my son says it to me all time lol, no offense by any means, but ok boomer. You name made me chuckle cause my kids think I'm old *eye roll* they have no clue I'm happy to get older because I get wiser... Heyyyyoooo
goldieoldie in reply to
Indeed!as I am ageing Im still sageing,and continue to seek Truth on my spiritual journey.The saying goes theres no fool like an old fool,BUT,I hasten to add I may be short on actual living experience(meaning relationships ect),and my life seem pretty dull,IM quite astute,and have emotional intelligence!though I dont ramble on about it.(only here}Im allowed to I hope?!
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Hi ItsAsh,
Very good advise. I am my worst enemy, but I have been stomped on for many years. At this point, I really have trouble dealing with nasty people that say horrible things and gossip about me. And you are right, I give them the power to do so. I'm not confrontational.
This all sounds very lonely 😔
Just wanted to acknowledge that, and say hello.
I also have family troubles at times, is there any chance of reconciliation with your son?
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Absolutely no chance of reconciliation with my son. He has said terrible things to me in the past, made fun of me in front of people, blames me for everything that ever happened to him, and most of all he claims he always hated me, never gave me cards, never responded to emails, and most of all never cared about me. Understand, I was a good mom. I was always there for him. I took him everywhere, helped him with homework every night, and helped him study for tests. I wanted him to have everything I didn't have in my childhood.
goldieoldie in reply to
That to me sounds like blaming and not coping well with his own life,;I havent got a son or any familyother than brothers and sisters--youngest brother does that put women down ,my own mother was subjected to this sort of behaviour and she worked so very hard to bring us up the best she could ,as my father had the _"POOR me syndrome"----my sister too has a son for the past 15yrs blames his ex-partner for having a son by him.....its a cop out ,Blame-----dont feel bad-he wont change until he realises this himself-(self-discovery),,,enough said!
I am sorry to hear this about your son. My older brother was just like that with our mother. Please believe you are a good person who does not deserve this treatment. Why your son is this way is something you may never find out. Please take care of yourself.
Thank you for understanding my situation, since you were a witness to unrespectful treatment of your mom, by your brother. I also appreciate you recognizing that I was a good person and didn't deserve this treatment. Just like you said, I'm sure I'll never know why. I know he will never contact me again, but it took years to realize that he is the one that didn't deserve such a good mom and I wouldn't contact him ever again. I am in a very bad emotional and financial situation, but I would never contact him. I'd rather be homeless and sick. If you ever need anyone to talk to about your problems, don't hesitate to email me.
Thanks, again
I am sorry that you are in this situation. As far as the labels people have put on you, too bad you cannot tell them to sit on their labels and rotate. More reasonable, though, is to work to put them where they belong, in the trash, and counter them with affirmations. You have to make a beginning and keep pushing yourself and keep the faith in yourself. I know this because this is exactly where I am now. I am hoping you will make this start and keep with it. That is what I struggling with now. You have friends out there. You just need to find them.
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Inkling, that was very sweet of you to read my email, and I appreciate the push to put these people in their places, and also live my life in hopes that they get their's someday and I will hope I can do something someday that will make me feel better about myself. I have written a few letters to some people about their short comings, and reminding them of the horrible things they have said to me in the past. I have trouble coming back at people at the same time they say something that I don't like. Again, I am not confrontational. I wouldn't even think to say horrible things to people. I follow the old adage, (if you don't have anything nice to say to someone, don't say anything at all. I find that lots of people have no filters. If you feel like it, tell me your problem. Maybe it will help to say what you feel inside. If not, it's okay, too. I'm sure it's hard to trust people. I know I don't anymore. I find that people are generally mean and love to gossip about other people. I, myself, would rather have a nice conversation about so many other things. Nobody has to resort to being a gossiper.
goldieoldie in reply to
I second that I live in a place where theres 96 flats------and I know that via there gossiping it marred my living as did with my immediate family,now Im paying the price for trying to assert myself ,its a long story,and what I was trying to say is people in general would get on a whole lot better if they put more effort into what they gossip about-----it seems to be a scourge of modern living)long ago there was more genuine concern for ones neighbours not this silly tittle-tattle/!!
Thank you for your reply, especially your saying I can express my problem. It does help to vent, so here I go. I see no way out for a retired (pushed into early retirement after I had two epileptic seizures at work) who lost $93,000 after husband maneuvered my retirement money into some lousy scam. With the epilepsy I am unable (so it seems) to live alone, and there is really nowhere else to go. Had severe breakdown and breakthrough seizures last year. Love to read, write, travel, go out for coffee--so I am easing into these activities as I am still getting back my health. And, most of all, putting out feelers for a place I can safely live. I am my only cheerleader now, but I am happy to have found this site and that we can support each other! Thanks for reading--I appreciate this contact.
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Inkling, I am so sorry for everything that happened to you. Are you separated from your husband? So since you are sort of pushed into retirement, do you own a house or have other money to count on? Believe me, I am not asking these questions to pry, but I have a similar situation. I am retired, rent an apartment, been divorced for 25 years, have no money, and am now having to apply for subsidized living. I never thought in a million years that my life would turn out this way, since I worked my whole life. I don't have anyone to help me either, so I truly understand. I am looking for safe living also. I don't want to end up in a bad neighborhood with violence. I currently live in a nice neighborhood, but I won't be able to afford it soon.
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Thank you so much for your reply. I am also sorry for your situation, and I certainly hope and pray it turns around very soon for you. I am ashamed to say I am not divorced or separated, just miserably married (my own fault), as I am afraid of being alone, even though when I had my breakthrough seizure and breakdown, I begged (yes, begged) my husband to get me to a hospital. He started getting his clothes on (to drive me, I thought), then sat down and watched TV. He told me, go call 911. It took me months to get my health back anywhere near normal. I still am struggling sometimes. My husband's house where I live now is in his name only, but I own half of our family home, where my brother is living. I know I need to make a start and keep going. Replies like yours mean a lot and are helpful. May I join your and Luna Child in us being there for each other?
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Inkling, I am here for you. We have all made mistakes in our lives, even though I feel I have made lots of mistakes. I'm sorry you have been sick. I live with chronic pain everyday, since I have cervical radiculopathy c6+c7 that has turned into Brachial Plexis Neuropathy. The nights are very painful. At night, I take a few pain pills. It started 3 years ago from an injury. And of course I have severe depression. I am all alone in this. And life goes on!?!
Thanks Luna. If you need me, I will be there for you, too.
I don't understand what you are asking, Luna.
That's okay, Luna
Sorry hun haven’t been checking in as much hope everyone is doing well and on weed 🙏❤️
I know this post is older but I just found it. I just want to give you a huge and loving ((hug))....I'm new ( well, not really on here much yet) and slowly poking my way through some posts that touch my heart and yours does. You are welcome to send a message to me anytime if you feel like chatting or simply venting. I'm in the US.
You are so sweet to have read my profile. I have had a very bad life.I am preparing for my death, by myself. Cleaning up papers, trying to change my will, and most importantly trying to find someone that would continue taking care of my dog afterwards. She is my everything. She is aging with me. She is 13 years old now, a pretty, smart, happy Bischon/poodle. Everyone in my community loves her, but I don't think they would take care of an older dog. I've had suicide ideation for many years, but I am taking 2 antidepressants now, and I am able to function again, and do the things I have to do. I found out I have Ateriosclerosis- hardening of the arteries in the aorta of my heart, and probably won't live much longer anyway. That is from years and years of binge eating disorder. I also have Chronic pain (Neuropathy for 4 years now from an injury. Pain radiates from my neck to my shoulder, to bicept, to wrist, to hand, to thumb, forefinger, and middle finger.
Sorry to tell you all the current bad news, since I don't know you. I guess I felt like someone was reaching out, and I have no one to talk to. Thanks for listening.
If you feel you want to, feel free to tell me your problems. I am a very empathetic person.
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