Just curious for anyone who knows about addictions? ...
I moved in with someone (short term) who is essentially a shut in. She orders beer to be delivered every morning and has her first one by 10am or so. I’d say she averages 12-18 a day. Her behavior changes very little, never belligerent nor angry.
I feel like she’s an alcoholic. Would you agree?
Reasons I’m asking are;
1. I’m concerned for her
2. I’m concerned for her pets, who in my opinion deserve much better care...
Yeah drinking for breakfast is a sure sign she’s got a problem.
Yea, that’s what I thought. 😢
Dosent mean she’s a bad person though and probably still loves her pets I’m sure ..do they get fed watered and a walk etc ?
Omg, no!! She’s a kind, sweet, funny, generous, really smart person! She does love her pets very much but no, zero walks and only outside twice daily to go potty - sometimes just one. The no walks is what I find concerning.
Maybe she needs your help ....you can both help each other
Agreed!! I’ve offered to walk the dog but she said he didn’t need it. I’ll keep trying! Thank you!
good plan ....you’re welcome ..best wishes
All I know is that a person has to admit they have a problem and want help before they can get help for an alcohol problem.
In the meantime, take the dogs for a walk anyway if you feel bad for them. If she will allow you to. If she doesn’t want you to then honor her wishes.
That’s my take on it anyway.
Have you told her you are concerned about her?
I don’t know her very well so I’m Leary to be too forward. I have broached the subject of her dog, however, she’s rather protective and defensive. I plan to keep trying tho!!
Hi definitely an alky. However if you are dependent on her to live there for the time being I would keep the peace. Meanwhile you could say something like you need a good walk and would love to have the dog for company or even security. Tread softly and be very tactful is my advice.
GREAT advice, thank you!!
You are welcome. Remember too you are not a counsellor and she might not want help. Everyone has a right to go to hell in their own way.
I'm so happy you found a place. I was worried about you. I'd be careful on confronting her about her drinking problem. She might snap and kick you out or something. I dont want you to be out in the streets again.
I only found a very temporary place to live so you’re right that I don’t want to rock the boat. I’m just staying on her couch. I’m in the process of looking to get back into the work force and find a permanent place to live!!
I've never been in that situation so I would've been scared too. I'm glad you didnt hurt yourself. I've got to get back into the workforce soon too. It can be a struggle. Sometimes you just have to get lucky.
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