Family outing

[BetterMeToday]

I’m so uncomfortable. I have a family outing in a few hours and I’m really debating going. We are saying goodbye to a young man who is really like family. He’s going to college and plays football. They will test for COVID and then he is stuck on campus until after the football season. I really want to go and have a good time but I know that I will be in my head the whole time and won’t be able to enjoy it. I’m so sick of this feeling. I just want to enjoy time with my family. Just venting but I know you all know how it feels and I just need some support

[Agora1]

Hi BetterMeToday, oh I certainly know the feeling. I can't tell you how many family

events I missed because of catering into my false beliefs in how I would feel.

The times I did make myself go, I didn't want to go home. I enjoyed myself.

I hope you rethink this and go. The more events we miss, the smaller the gathering

becomes. Life is about today and being in the moment. We will be here and help

you take that step forward. One foot in front of the other will get you there. Once

you are at the outing, use your breathing techniques to quiet down your mind.

You can do this with no regrets if you allow yourself to. Enjoy xx

[BetterMeToday in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Agora1 I really hope this works lol I’m forcing myself to go. I’m so scared but I know if I don’t push through the fear I will become a prisoner to it. I appreciate your kind words thank you!

[Agora1 in reply to BetterMeToday]

Were you able to go to the outing yesterday?

If you weren't, I'm still proud of you for trying.

(even if only in your mind)

Stepping forward is not only about the physical act

but also about having the desire and thought to act.

There is never failure when we try. xx

[BetterMeToday in reply to Agora1]

Thanks for checking on me that’s awesome of you. I did go, I was very anxious and almost had an attack but I made it through. I did enjoy myself a little, especially the go-karts. I was so focused on driving that I was almost free of anxiety for that short moment. I’m trying to see it as a victory, even if just a small one.

[Agora1 in reply to BetterMeToday]

OMG A Double Congrats to you ...There was Go Karting??

It was definitely a Victory. I consider it a Big One. Good Job Hugs xx

[BetterMeToday in reply to Agora1]

Thanks again Agora1 yes the go Karts were definitely the highlight of the evening I felt free for a few sweet minutes. I feel empowered. At the moment I’m feeling hopeful. Hope all is well with you!

[Blu_A25]

I deal with anxiety all the time and being around large groups. It’s really hard because I get cramps in my stomach, Chest pains. It’s not fun at all . I always try to push myself to go to family gathering because I feel bad everyone’s always asking is “Bri okay” short answer is no but I’m trying. It is going to be a uphill battle but it is worth fighting . Stay strong ❤️

[BetterMeToday in reply to Blu_A25]

Hang in there Blu, keep pushing through the fear and discomfort. We’re gonna beat this thing no matter what. Thanks for your comments and I hope you have an amazing day