Pity party.

So I'm supposed to be in a wedding in like 2 weeks and finally broke down and went out to buy a dress today with my mom. I had fun, I enjoy entertaining so I kept her laughing most of the time, anywhoooo... So I found this dress. I wasn't crazy about it but it was the color I needed and it was on sale (what what!!) So I bought it without being able to try it on because the fitting rooms were closed. So after coming home, making dinner, and being somewhat embarrassed to put it on because I'm not a dress person, I finally took it off the hanger, unzipped it and slid it on. I get some help zipping it, only to get a few inches up and.... Nothing. It was too small. And on top of that once I had it on, it actually looked pretty amazing. So after a two to three minute pity party for myself, with some tears because of my weight, and feeling all sorry for myself, I put it ever so nicely back on the hanger to return. Long story short, I've decided it's time to lose weight, and I ordered a new dress.

So how was everyone's day today?!

[Rosiemarie82]

Chin up! I bought my wedding dress on a good sale, a month before the wedding, and BARELY squeezed into it the day of...and that was with a waist trainer/girdle on.

At least you found a new dress ♡

As far as weight loss, best of luck. There are many great plans if you have the will power, like low carb or intermittent fasting.

[Hidden in reply to Rosiemarie82]

No joke, my mom was just telling me about the intermittent fasting one today!! I'm going to have to do something because I just don't like myself right now. I am not aiming to be a size zero or anything but 6 or even 8 would be great.. and girl I'm happy you got it to fit because I would have been so upset buying that and it not fitting

[Doglover309]

I'm sorry about the dress. I'm sure you would have looked great in it! My day was ok I guess. I'm happy that you are making a positive change in your life. Most people I come across when something doesn't fit they just throw a little fit blaming the clothing company. (I'm sorry if that comes off as rude).

[Hidden in reply to Doglover309]

No it doesn't come off rude at all, the problem is my weight not the dress lol 😂 no need to blame them to make myself feel better. I try to be honest with everyone, including myself

[Hidden]

I love your positivity. The sad part about all this? Like 3 years ago I was 104 pounds and looked anorexic, well because I basically was at that point. And I wanted to gain weight, and well now I can't seem to lose it bahaha

[Hidden]

I love you, I'm so glad you're on this planet

[Hidden]

#truth yesss I feel the same way about you

[Hidden]

Oh lawwwdd, they are being kids 🙂 they drive me nuts lmao but I love it, i got one asking for a haircut, one asking for koolaid and one that all he wants to do is watch some baby shark 🤦🏻 I swear that song is going to send me over the edge hahahahah 😂😂😂 from sun up to sun down it's baby shark, and it's so hard to tell him no because he is so dang cute I swear, just looking at him makes my heart melt

[Theloudone in reply to Hidden]

hahaha oh man! How old are your kids? I have two boys 8,4

[Hidden in reply to Theloudone]

I have six lol the oldest is 16, one's 15, one's 10, I have an eight year old a 5 year old and a one year old

[Theloudone in reply to Hidden]

Oh wow, your hands are full!

[Hidden in reply to Theloudone]

Ohhh yeah but honestly my life would be so boring without them, I constantly have to turn away when they're in trouble cause I want to laugh so hard at what they're doing lol

[Theloudone in reply to Hidden]

Hahaha yes I know what you mean. My sister in law in the worst when she’s around and I try to discipline my little one. He’s a character and she just cracks up- I’m trying to be all serious haha.

In all seriousness though, while I struggled with bad PPD, I am forever grateful that they are here.

When times are the toughest for me, I just think of how much it would crush my oldest son if I were dead.

I lost my mom when I was just a little younger then he is now- and it broke me- I can’t do that to him, no matter how much pain and suffering it causes me.

[Hidden in reply to Theloudone]

Yeah I went through PPD too, I ended up in a mental health facility for like 2 weeks from all that mess. I'm glad they give you a reason to live! My kids have saved my life so many times, and they don't even know it. I'm so sorry you lost your mom at a young age, I would have been devastated if I didn't have mine growing up. I can only imagine the pain that caused you, it breaks my heart to hear that

[Theloudone in reply to Hidden]

I’m glad you were able to get help. I was in rehab for two years after my abusive relationship and before I met my husband and had kids.

I didn’t feel like I could ask for help after having my kids, so I tried to get through it alone.

I’m glad your kids saved your life too.

I have two older brothers and lived with them and my dad growing up. (Also I’m black and adopted into a white family in a very rich white town) I felt very alone. No one told me about puberty. I didn’t know why my vagina was bleeding.

I think that’s why I want to be everything for my kids.- I can’t leave them

[Hidden in reply to Theloudone]

That is horrible, for so many reasons. I'm glad you are part of this site, I'm here if you ever need to reach out, and so many other people would be willing to talk, or just listen if that's what you need

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Damn, you have 6?!

(Sorry to reply to something not meant for me; I'm just...wow! 6!!)

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yeah lol 😂

[Hidden]

😂 is all I have to say on how you tell your stories!! Love it!!

Seriously though, congratulations on your decision to loose weight👏

I'm glad your kids are doing well! My brother and sister-in-law are glad that their little girl has moved out of the Baby Shark phase. Now she's on to the movie "Frozen". I just got an Instagram of her singing/screaming "Let It Go". It was really cute to watch!!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Got to keep you interested 😂

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Well, you're doing a great job!😂

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you m'lady 🙂

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Anytime!😀

[Hidden]

And my girls went through a frozen phase too so I don't miss those days either lol

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

One of the gym classes I go to is a cardio dance class. Since my balance is not perfect and I'm not super coordinated, I have body parts going everywhere. Anyway...the point of telling you about my class is because one of the songs we danved o several years ago was a jazzed-up version of "Let It Go". I had just returned to Oslo from a trip back to the States, where we had a bunch of little girls at the time all going through the same phase of "Let It Go". So we ate, slept, and breathed that song. I get back to Oslo, go to my cardio class and what does the instructor choose to play? So yeah, I know what you mean...😂

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

😂😂😂