Broken

[mayaohh]

My 3 year relationship ended today due to my anxiety and depression. I’ve never been this heart broken and the sadness will not leave me. I don’t know what to do

[Tiggerakafidgity]

Hi may

I feel for you.

I’ve come out of a 6 year marriage but I was with her in total 8 yrs.

I would suggest trying not to just sit in a quiet place as you will play role games in your head,what if I had done this or that.

Have a radio on or tv,in the evening if you feel lonely fall asleep to the tv or radio.its actually very comforting and I got a duvet in my first marriage break up and slept under it in the front room.

Once you’ve excepted it’s over if you haven’t already that will make way for the anger the sadness etc.

A little like the stages of berievment.

Keep your self busy even if you don’t fancy it.

Write a list for the week,there must be new things you’ve wanted to try in life.if you can find one new thing a week then every week you will have somet to look forward to and get excited about.

I hope this helps a little

I know it’s not easy dealing with sadness and depression and anxiety but try to remember your sadness is just sadness it’s not depression yer

[mayaohh in reply to Tiggerakafidgity]

Thank you for the advice. I hope to be better eventually it’s just right now nothing makes sense

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry! I actually got out of a relationship on wednesday of 2.5 years. It hurts

You can PM me if you want someone to talk to i’m here

[Anonymous798]

Hi, I’m so sorry this happened to you. I understand what you are going through. It’s really tough. The last friendship that I had ended on bad terms because of my mental illness. We were best friends since grade 1. In grade 8 they did something that I could never forgive them for. I know it may feel like impossible to get over and they may be the only thing on your mind. But, if you preoccupy yourself with other things (which may be hard) you might start to get over them. Just remember that it wasn’t your fault. You cant control mental illness. You don’t get to choose when and when you don’t have it. If you want to (depending on the circumstances) You can try to salvage your relationship. I hope things get better for you. Have a great day

[mayaohh in reply to Anonymous798]

Thank you so much ❤️

[Anonymous798 in reply to mayaohh]

Thank you. I’m happy I could help

[Mishell11]

Hey! I can feel you. Even i just got out of my 4 yr relationship .

Stay busy, do anything and everything that can keep you engaged.

[mayaohh in reply to Mishell11]

Thank you!

[Hidden]

Me too. I feel so lost and hurt, ashamed of myself and my illness and its cause in the breakup. I am still in love but he doesn't want to talk to me. We were together for ten years and he felt like my whole world. You are probably feeling shattered and lost as I am. I feel for you deeply. Based on the other comments on this thread, we're all in this together, all hurting, all stung. Maybe we can write to each other about the new things we tried each day, or beautiful things we noticed in a day, a joke we heard, something distracting and solid from people who understand? A soft, calm, comforting space?

[mayaohh in reply to Hidden]

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this as well. I definitely do feel lost because we both still really love each other but we just weren’t in a healthy spot at the moment and realized we were hurting each other instead of helping. I’m totally open to messaging whenever you need someone to talk to or a distraction, my messages are open ❤️

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry..I understand what that pain feels like.

Taking care of yourself and connecting with supportive friends is so important right now.

Yes I agree with tiggerakafidgity to not play the "what if" game...that's a game that has no rules/ makes no sense/ and we make ourselves to blame all the time.

The good news is and you don't see it coming yet is that life will continue on..the world is full of beautiful people who would love to be your other half...grieving this loss takes time so it's important you're easy on yourself.

I am new however I went through the loss of a long-term relationship too so please don't hesitate to message me if needed.

You have courage and are strong. ⚓💪 and you shine..⭐...tough for the other person who cannot see that. Their loss.

You're in my thoughts..⚓

[mira99]

I know exactly how you feel I broke up with or was broke up with rather in May I can’t say I have been down the whole time but suddenly the pain is back to when it first happened I can’t see a way forward devastated and broken wish there was a way of just forgetting like I never knew him that way the pain would be gone