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Hi, I'm new here and have never joined a support group until now. I have suffered from generalized anxiety and health anxiety since i was in my 20's. It's been a long hard road to live this way, it's a lonely road. I am 51 years old and married for 30 years now and bless his heart to stay with me this long and put up with my "craziness". But he doesn't understand why i think the way i do, he doesn't understand that anxiety takes your body over and you can't control it. He doesn't understand why i always think worse case scenario. I don't understand why i am this way so i can't expect him or my family too. We have had a rough few years, a lot of deaths in the family, helping our son raise his daughter and having no time to ourselves anymore. And then here comes coronavirus! my anxiety goes through the roof, and 2 months into it i start having health issues so of course i'm dying and it has went all downhill from there, the stomach pains, breathing problems, and on and on. So i sit here this morning after not being able to sleep the last few nights because i can't breath and i'm convinced i am having heart failure. Trying to calm myself down enough to make it through another day. Feeling Alone.

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Jfb007

I get you, I have constant panic attacks even when I’m totally relaxed. My husband doesn’t understand ether... but it’s true not even us know the reasons. But I’m glad you are here; There’s a lot of people how are here to help. Welcome.

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Gingerjuju in reply to Jfb007

Thank you so much Jfb007, It means so much to know I am not alone.

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Jfb007 in reply to Gingerjuju

If you feel anxious or having panic attack don’t think twice to reach out. I’m here to hear you and for you.

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Gingerjuju in reply to Jfb007

Thank you, and same goes for you. I am here if you need someone to talk to.

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Gingerjuju

Thank you uminhaj, I will check it out.

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Jan-ice

Hi, I am experiencing the same things and my partner doesn't get it.

We had a yelling match yesterday and I had nearly a breakdown yelling I'm leaving.

It's so hard for them to understand wex are scared and our normal anxiety is triple fold.

I have rules for my OCD and hes just tired of them

I understand what you are going through

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Gingerjuju

Jan-ice, Thank you and I understand what you are going through. My husband gets upset with me too, I have told him over and over that I am just scared but he doesn't understand. It's so hard to deal with something like this when no one around you can relate to it. :(

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basten

Hello I'm 71 female. I suffer too from severe anxiety, depression and worry continually over physical ailments. The slightest ailment and wham...that it I'm dying there something major wrong etc. I have driven my 2vgrown up children nuts all these years but they have never abandoned me. I am in a lot of pain when I eat. It burns gets inflamed all through me . I've had it 5vyrs and it's been awful and tablets for acid dont help. Now I get a croaky voice and throat clearing so now I'm convinced theres something very sinister going on. My GI app over the phone isnt until 13cAugust. I want another endoscope but I doubt very much they will do one in these circumstances. I live on my own and go all week not seeing anyone. They say I have somatisation disorder too. I was in the mental hospital last year when a drug caused horrendous panic attacks and I've never had them before. I am and have been on Zopiclone and benzodiazepams for nearly 2 yrs or more. I tried missing a Zopiclone one night and was awake all night and by 12 the next day I felt dreadful. The psychiatrist in the hospital said I blame your doctors for keeping you on them. I tell them I want to come off them but when this new psychiatrist says we will taper you off I immediately go into a panic and get very upset and anxious cos I know I wont sleep for weeks and i cant stand not sleeping plus the tablets knock me out when the pains bad and that's such a relief. But i only sleep till 5 a.m

No people just cant understand why we are like it and my daughter says it's because i think too much and am very negative etc and i must start meditation etc. I am like you i feel very alone and afraid. Anxiety is not nice. This COVID hadn't helped has it. We must somehow try to relax and i just wanted you to know you are not alone . I hope you will get some sleep soon.

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Gingerjuju in reply to basten

basten, Thank you for sharing your story with me, it helps to know that I am not alone in the way my mind works. My husband and children also tell me that I overthink and I am negative. I wish they only knew how much I hate being this way and how much of a toll it takes on someone dealing with a broken mind like mine.

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basten in reply to Gingerjuju

Yes hi. I too HATE being like this. It takes a lot to make me laugh ....I'm such a bloody misery guts ha ha. My kids have also said I can be very selfish at times and that "it's not always about YOU mum". They have problems of their own and I often feel I am just a burden to them. If I'm in pain I find it hard to say nothing and listen to them etc. I do get quite snappy at times too. I will help anyone if I can and do have empathy for those suffering so . We are lucky we have family that love us for all our faults. There have been occasions though when my daughter has said stop it mum going on enough today I dont want to hear it. But they also tell me we love you and will always support you when we can. I think I put too much pressure on them as I've always been a person to talk about my feelings and have always thought everyone was so happy and I wasnt. How wrong could I be. I've been told to take four deep breaths in from a dozen, hold it for 4 and slowly release for the count of 7 to calm me down. My mum always said you never listen. My kids especially my daughter has done everything in her power to reassure me that I'm ok and my son says mum stop putting yourself down all the time. I'm sure you're a very caring person and it's obvious you have a loving husband. He loves you warts an all!! I used to play relaxing music at bedtime before I started on these awful drugs. I'm glad you're not on them. I just hate not sleeping but I know people who just read in the night or get up and do something but to me night time is for sleep. If you are worrying constantly you wont sleep you'll just lay there anxious. I do feel for you and I guess you dont like to disturb your husband. Please dont be afraid to message me again I'm quite happy to listen to anything. I may not be able to help much but talking to someone else helps a lot .

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Gingerjuju

Thank you basten, And i am here if you ever need someone to talk too. It's so hard trying to get the people that we love to understand what we go through in our minds.

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