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So today is my birthday and feeling really down about it. In the time I’ve been alive (25) I feel like I’ve not accomplished much in life compared to others.
Also, I’m not taking to a few family members and have very few friends so spending the day alone going up to London. From those few friends I thought I had, none of them have wished me a happy birthday. Am I over thinking that they aren’t really my friends or am I really alone in the world?
I would like to wish you a happy birthday
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Happy Birthday, Welcome
True friendships are as rare as hens teeth, in our lives I feel we may be very lucky if friendships really last long enough until the fat lady sings ?
You need to be understanding of this, most friends can be just associates that enter a foggy day and disappear. Yes try and get in touch with them and have a night out for your Birthday, however if they know it is your birthday and not mention it, that is very hard on you. However life is never easy and life is full of disappointments.
Remember if a friendship is a diamond you will know, if it is a not you are best to know
BOB
Thanks for your reply. I know true friendships are rare. I’ve found that out a lot in recent years. I guess no matter if things hurt it’s best to know the truth and where you stand with people
First of all, happy birthday! May this next year be the one where you find happiness 💐
Second, feeling lonely happens to a lot of people, especially on their birthday (🙋🏻♀️), and it definitely sucks. Try spending this day making yourself happy, go see a movie, have a glass of wine, take a long relaxing bath while listening to some new music.
When it comes to friends, surely you have some true ones. Think about them and see if there’s anyone you could talk to. Most of the time, people have no idea their friends are lonely and generally down. Try telling someone how you feel, I’m sure they’ll want to understand and help you.
Sending lots of hugs!
Thank you. I hope it will be.
I’ve tried to wander around London which I love to do. I’m going out with one member of family I do speak to (my dad) so hope this will help feel less lonely.
I used to think I had some true friends but this year things started being one way i.e. it was always me that had to reach out or plan to do stuff and I got tired of the one sidedness. The only friends I felt like I had was people I went to uni with but most of the time everyone’s too busy to meet up or anything. Even though they’re busy they still haven’t said anything about my birthday and they usually do so that’s something I’m feeling down about.
Thank you so much
You aren't alone. I celebrated my birthday a few weeks ago. I celebrate my birthday as another year of surviving anxiety and depression. You are stronger than you realize. Happy Birthday!
Thank you. It feels like a lot. I guess I should see it as that but then I think but I haven’t achieved this or that like others have and it gets me down more
Have a great birthday and give my love to London x
Thank you. It really is a beautiful city
Hello alicej,. Unfortunately One of the hardest lessons to learn in this life is "The Less dependence we have on other people, the better off we are." Even people who you think would Never betray you or that you CAN always depend on,.one day, totally shock you by suddenly not being there for you even on such an important day. It's very disheartening to say the least. In my own personal experience with "so called friends" i had this painful experience happen to me, even over the smallest requests from me needing something. I "learned" over time that i could not rely on anyone, OR the less people that you depend on, rely on, the better off you will be and the less let-downs you will experience. These so-called friends aren't worth your pain,. Stop blaming yourself for these people's issues, it's not YOUR fault they are who they are, and do or don't do what they should have.
I think that’s why I try and not depend on anyone and only rely on myself if possible. I’ve found that out in recent years. I know I shouldn’t but I can’t help but blame myself all the time with why do people not want me as a friend and questioning myself about why I’m not good enough
It's just a bad habit that you blame yourself, or try to justify why your friends, (or anyone) for that matter treated you that way, or don't bother with you. Like any Bad habit, this bad habit will take time and effort to break. But start by realizing that YOU cannot take the blame for other people's attitudes, issues, moods, likes and dislikes. Realize there are so many "other reasons" why people ACT and DO or Don't Do towards others, including their own friends. Realize also that "you truly have NO CONTROL over how others will think or treat you,. Regardless of how long you've known them, or if you even consider them a sister or brother to you. Every time ANYONE lets you down for ANY reason (unless you caused it) of course. Ask yourself, " Why should i take this out on myself when i didn't do anything to deserve this?" And " I'm not going to make excuses for her,his, or their behavior towards me anymore!" Stop taking the hits for other people's bad choices, or bad attitudes, etc., etc.. You will feel better about yourself!
Thanks 😊
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Happy 25th Birthday Alice
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Happy Birthday alicej
Don't forget to treat yourself while in London 
Enjoy your special day. You are not alone, you have us who care. xx
Happy birthday, love. You are wonderful and have made it thus far! That is something you should be proud of. You’re a survivor!!
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