Going back to work...

[Shimmer93]

So I am going back to work for the first time in about 2 months... I had to stay home because I started having panic attacks and could not desperate not being able to breathe with a mask from not being able to breathe when I had a pillow over my face and stuff like that. I am super anxious about going back.. I know everyone is going to ask how I am doing and where I have been. I just feel like I am not ready but I do not really have a choice at this point. Just need some good vibes or any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[PT81]

Good luck and I’ll be sending good vibes your way.

[Shimmer93 in reply to PT81]

Thank you !

[Dontstopbelieven]

Try to pretend that the mask is a seal to help you hold it all together. Reply to others who ask how you are. Thank you for your concern, I’m focusing on my work right now and prefer not to discuss my situation.

[Shimmer93 in reply to Dontstopbelieven]

Thank you I will try that. I’m in a leadership position so I’ll try to say I’m focusing on work lol

[Dolphin14]

Script a few very brief sentences about yourself. Don't give details. " I'm doing well. Can't believe how fast the time went by. So glad to be back. " etc etc

Then quickly flip the conversation... tell me how have you been, what's going on?

Most people love to talk about themselves.

I'm not sure what your job is. But maybe get to the bathroom and take it off? Step outside? Just get some air if you need it. Remind yourself why you have the mask on. Tell yourself this is different from your trauma. That you are safe.

I wish you luck on your return to work. Let us know how it goes

[Shimmer93 in reply to Dolphin14]

It’s not going very well so far

[Dolphin14 in reply to Shimmer93]

I'm sorry

Because of the masks or the conversations?

[Shimmer93 in reply to Dolphin14]

The masks... I’ve had 2 panic attacks already

[Dolphin14 in reply to Shimmer93]

I'm so sorry. It's totally understandable.

Would they allow you to use a face shield? Mayb get a md note?

[Shimmer93 in reply to Dolphin14]

We can only wear masks not shields 😩 I can technically go out on FMLA (have the paperwork and everything) and be fine but I am in a leadership position so I feel like I need to be there

[Dontstopbelieven in reply to Shimmer93]

Maybe try different types of masks. My brother bought this one for my mom. It looks like a scarf sewn in a circle. Kind of like a turtle neck shirt without the shirt part. She wears it around her neck and then just pulls it up over her nose and mouth. Great as it doesn’t bother her ears. Look around, I’m sure there’s other novel ideas out there.

[Shimmer93 in reply to Dontstopbelieven]

Hmm maybe I will look for one like that I’ve tried all types of masks so far... even fishing buffs and it’s all the same 😑

[Dolphin14 in reply to Shimmer93]

They do have some really pretty neck ones.

I can't imagine you being refused the use of a shield if you have a reason you can't wear a mask.

Check with your md.. the job would have to accommodate you. I would think.

[JulieA1965]

Thinking of you and hoping all goes well.

[Shimmer93]

Thank you !!

[Loveskydiving]

Well you have so far broke the ice with co-worker's when you first went back to work. That's a big step right there. Way to go Shimmer ! I would agree that they should have to accommodate you to be able to wear a shield if that seems better for you and get a note from your Dr like Dolphin has said. Good luck and keep us posted.