Manipulation and false loving

[Pieces99]

Hi guys. So I would like to talk about manipulation which happened unknowingly with me for years. I have written a post too of my best friend that she was supporting and only true friend and blah blah. Well after depression my mind became a lot more clearer and this led me thinking how toxic and false was the relationship of me and my best friend. I was basically a tail who used to follow her around and support in her every single decision. Now I feel so hurt that my chest aches. I feel betrayed. She manipulated me into every bad things I have done. I am saying it's not entirely her fault because it was mine too that I could not find a better friend for my well being and I was so naive and used to get influenced a lot. Before, I used to remember us and used to think that those were my happy days, but now all I think is her manipulation and false loving. There is so much negativity left out of the relationship. I don't think I would ever be able to move on from that. It left me my emotions paralyzed and even more confused as to what was that friendship.

Thanks for reading. I just poured it all. 🙂

[nanavisca]

It’s okay I know what you mean I had a friend like that she only texted me when she needed money or no one else wanted to hang out with here and I helped her a lot even with her really toxic relationship (which she’s no longe in) and every time we hung she always asked if I had money to buy smokes. Well anyways it didn’t all hit me till me 14 year old brother ran away and she knew where he was and when I asked if she did she said yeah I asked if she could tell me and she said give me 20 dollars and I’ll tell you in front of her friend group and I said nvm because 1.) I didn’t have money then and 2.) why would I have to pay “my friend” to help me anyways after that anything she asked for I said no to go ask someone else and we stopped talking after that dont worry it’ll get better you’ll feel better with time I do now and seeing I don’t have many friends she was my closest but it wasn’t worth it

[Pieces99 in reply to nanavisca]

I'm sorry that you had such a horrible experience like that. People tend to act like our friend and use us. Not all people but there are some and we sometimes fail to recognize their evil self. Thanks for replying.

[nanavisca in reply to Pieces99]

Im also sorry that happen to you and I guess we like the idea that our friends couldn’t be like that that maybe it’s just them having a day or something but then they keep acting like that and acting like that till you get tired of it. But it’s like you said not all people are like that and I believe that I’m here if you ever need to talk.

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, yes life can be very difficult, have you considered talking with a therapist, they can lead you into better thinking. Also a book I like to recommend is by Dr. Scott Peck "The Road Less Traveled" you can get it on Amazon new.used. It helped me a Lot, it was in the top 10 best seller list for 7 years. I carried it around with me like a bible. Leave yesterday in the past, it is done and cannot be changed. Forget about tomorrow it is not here yet. Live in the moment, it is So rewarding, I learnt that in the Spiritual Group I was in, it changed my life, I get up happy and go to bed happy. Learn to love yourself, do not beat yourself up, respect yourself, learn from your experiences, that way you won't repeat them. Believe in yourself, explore who you are, be your own best friend, I am. Write to us and we will offer your love and support, hugs too........

[Pieces99 in reply to Sprinkle1]

Thank you so much. I will definitely refer the book and move on happily.