Letting go or closure

[Libra783]

When I was in grade 7, a boy hit me in the face with a frisbee because I was apparently rude to his friend. he cut my eyelid and I was bleeding and crying in the shower. I still have a scar on my eye because of this! I can’t believe I have a permanent scar from this for me to remember for all my life. A year after this he DM’s me calling me a hoe, a bitch and all other names and tells me to let shit go. Fast forward high school he’s been nothing but rude to me and has made me feel so bad about myself. No one ever defended me. Not even my ex-best friend. Even one of my close friends is dating him. I don’t know what to do. Should I let it go or talk to my friend (His gf) about it? Or even confront him? How do I move on from this when it’s caused me so much pain? I couldn’t sleep last night over it because I feel like all my life people have just walked all over me and I’ve let them. I honestly don’t know what will bring me peace.

[Libra783]

I want to just say that after everything he did, all I did was tell him to leave me alone I never reciprocated any of his bullying because I was scared he would turn everyone against me and I would get even more bullied. Can someone please give me advice? My mom isn’t that helpful honestly. I’m graduating high school now so I should(?) be over it but it still hurts so much and I don’t know how to tell my friend that it hurts me to see her date someone who hurt me so much, and I feel like I even need to break off our friendship. I don’t know what to do. I need to start defending myself and putting myself first for my mental health because everything I’ve gone through and let happen to me had ripped me to shreds. And I’ve taken it out on the people I love who I know won’t fight back or bully me. I know it’s wrong but it was my only way to cope and I want to find peace finally instead of letting my anger and pain control my life

[Rosco49]

Hi, I really feel for you, I too have had some stuff done to me when I was younger and it can be hard to let go. However you must try and find some closure as this person is continuing to hurt you, by you thinking about it often. I spoke to a counsellor about my situation, this may help you, also things like CBT and meditation can help. If you feel brave enough you could perhaps confront him and calmly and confidently tell him how he has made you feel, however that would only work if he is a reasonable human who simply hasn't realised how much he has hurt you physically and emotionally. If he is a bully, he made derive pleasure from knowing he has got to you. I think you have to let it go somehow and as alluded to earlier, perhaps some kind of talking therapy along with online guided hypnosis for letting go of past hurts which you can get free on you tube, along with mindfulness and breathing techniques. I know i have rambled bit, but trying to think of anything that may at least help you cope better or even move on completely, love and best wishes.

[shewolf_]

first off that’s not your friend. don’t waste time on someone that would betray u like that .