Expressing myself

[puppy242]

I tried driving with my dad today and it didn't go that well. I didn't feel comfortable doing certain things and was told to just watch the way someone turns the wheel... that doesn't help with making a turn & maintaining speed?

I feel myself breaking down. Im trying really hard when I am around my dad but cannot deal with being talked to like this anymore. It's not normal if it's detrimental to how we interact .

After we switched seats he did 3 turns while fully explaining how to do it. My head was hurting. Why did you set me up to watch me do poorly so you can talk down to me? Could avoid you yelling if you just tell me how the first time. He knows cars very well, and he used to race but it's like trial by fire & belittling as usual

I can't keep running to my friend or to my boyfriend to say hey this thing that happened hurt me today. So here I am crying.

[Agora1]

puppy242, I'm sorry for what you experienced with your dad.

It's hard to learn anything new when someone keeps berating you.

It's probably more difficult because he was a professional race driver.

Is it possible to get lessons from a driving school? They are trained to

handle the beginner. This way you won't be belittled as well as not

learning any bad habits. xx

[puppy242 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks I'm trying to learn new ways to stay calm and not cry but i get so confused as to what do i say or do when I will be wrong? Then he says "you aren't talking now" when I get quiet...

He's not a bad guy, I'm just getting so frustrated.

There are driving schools in my area. I am not in great shape financially so that's why i was hoping my dad could help. I will look into the idea though. Thank you for your suggestion.

[Agora1 in reply to puppy242]

I hope you get the help you need puppy.

The end goal is to become a safe driver

which takes being confident in yourself.

Driving is a responsibility that must be taken seriously.

Good Luck xx

[crowningglory19]

Aw, I'm sorry. That is hard when our parents think they are encouraging but it is actually harsh criticism that is detrimental. do you have someone else who can teach you to drive or at least do the starter things so you don't feel so incapable? some times it's just too hard and can be a stressor for a long time after, ask someone else to teach you, or pay for lessons. If you can't afford them, see if they allow free lessons at the dmv. It is worth it for your esteem and emotional health. Also, take magnesium and gensing to calm your nerves, they are great! Almonds also have a lot of magnesium if you love them. <3

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Hey. Can u help me I seem to have lost my way. Bugs bunny here and I have a hunch I miss the Bahamas

Ya know Father mean we’ll but it’s a loaded situation. The worst thing g a fTher can do us teach their kids. As an instructor we switch kids

The dynamics change

Sit in your room and build a mock car. Practice with a dinner plate

Lots of fun. Oh my god thk goodness you saw the puppy in the cross walk. Ok So try to be my teacher and we will play car and rehearse at home

We do this as competitors in big time show jumping of horses

Ok so be my teacher and let’s go from there

Ok. Fair enough

It’s no u or yur dad

It’s a universal

It hurts too much to take from dad

That is why I dint teach my son unless super slow. Asking for hurt feelings and a fight

Take care