Alone

[silentdreamer20]

My stepdaughter went to my inlaws yesterday. My daughter went there, my husband went over after work. My step-daughters family is asking why I didn't see her too. My inlaws and I are not on speaking terms. They are toxic people and awful to me... But the question is why couldn't my husband bring her to our house for a bit- like when we have her, we always take her to them. Make sure everyone sees her. But when my inlaws get her we have to go to them and I'm not welcomed there. Again though- it makes me realize how much of an outsider I am.

[Mary-intussuception]

Ask him?

[fauxartist]

I'd say it speaks for itself...they know you don't like them, so they don't come to your house. It's really okay, and probably good that you are not putting yourself in harm’s way if they are toxic...I completely agree with doing that...so now the thing for you to do since they are never going to change....is to maybe accept these arrangements, and be okay with it....you don't want them coming over to your house either...so find some peace in knowing that you are doing what you need to do to keep yourself emotionally safe. I have had the in-laws from hell in my marriage before my current situation, which is now a good relationship,…and the ‘ex-in-laws’ were a large factor in encouraging failure and discourse in my marriage by running me down, but they didn’t turn down any free construction help or money. So I just stopped having anything to do with them…worked out for me better in the long run.

[silentdreamer20 in reply to fauxartist]

My stepdaughters maternal mom text me this morning and told me my MIL randomly told her yesterday that she asked me to ride with her to pick up my stepdaughter and I told her no. I told her my inlaws haven't spoken to me since March. I'm not surprised she tried to make me look bad though. They tell everyone the most lies about me with that intention. Makes me so mad! My husband and I had a long talk today. Now they are trying to say my SIL looks like she's on drugs (because she kicked my BIL out because she can't have his drinking around my nieces and nephews anymore.) I told my husband and they wonder why they aren't allowed around those kids 🤦🏻‍♀️ people like that are toxic as hell and will stop at nothing. We live on the same street as my inlaws and I told my husband today I deeply want to move.