I am not sure what to do next. I became a mother during the beginning of the pandemic when things were at their worst, gave up on a major career opportunity because daycare was too hazardous (beginning of pandemic) and too expensive to afford compared to the starting salary offered. Since the start of all of this I have realized how very alone I am - I don’t have any friends in state, my family is very sweet but all too busy with their lives to have time for me. My husband is too busy with work and is never around. I haven’t really been in many stores since my child isn’t old enough to wear a mask or get the vax and I am scared to bring him inside. I try to take him outdoors to places everyday though. We are now due soon with our second child (second pandemic baby) and I am just feeling very alone and scared. Unemployment is ending and I am not sure what I can do to make money at home. I keep brainstorming ideas for Etsy but I lack the confidence to decide on one yet. Wish I had anyone around to talk to to help come up with ideas or just talk to.
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I will private message you and help with ideas
Is it necessary for you to work from a financial standpoint? Two young children are pretty much a full time job for a year or two. I should add that I support women working and worked myself. Just wondering though if two small children, plus covid, plus work would be a little too much at this time.
My husband’s job doesn’t make that much. Money will be really tight for food and essentials unless I can figure out how to sell some of my art projects or something.
Send me a private message I’ll be more then happy to give you some ideas
You have a lot to juggle. This pandemic has done terrible things to those who didn't contract the virus! That said, I understand the costs of child care versus income. Being a Career Coach, employers want to see work experience, regardless of the situation. Have you thought about looking for a remote position?
It’s definitely a consideration if I am unable to do a craft fair. I am pretty good at paintings, including on furniture. I can also woodwork, leatherwork, make jewelry or custom tshirts. I’m not a very good salesman though.
You have the best companions there are, your not lonely. You and your child - children soon. I understand your doing the right thing keeping your babies in during corona. Do some you tube aerobics and resistance bands weight training while they nap. This will produce endorphins that battle anxiety and depression. Or maybe you can nap while they nap and Excercise while they nap too. Babies nap a lot. I live in a houseful of people. Wife, grown daughter and a mother in law we care for. Nothing brings me the pleasure I get when I visit and sleep overnight with my 2 grandkids. Maybe you can watch a child in your home to make extra money. I’m not sure I could keep up with 3 babies. But maybe 2 babies and a 3-4 year old?
While I appreciate some of the tips; I do workout everyday before the baby wakes up. I did consider the childcare idea but it’s a bit risky to my child with the numbers so high bringing in unvaccinated people without a mask near him and myself while pregnant. And when you are home every day only talking to a baby who can’t talk back and your husband is not home until bed time where it’s time to just go to sleep. yes is can get lonely not having another person to talk to. Why would you tell someone they are not lonely? That’s not at all helpful.
I’m sorry, I was trying to put a different positive way of thinking about being alone with babies. I was thinking about my own situation around babies and not yours. Sorry, it was meant to try to help and it backfired. I just know when I’m around my grandkids ages 1-4 all the adults don’t make me feel better like the kids do. Kids have an ability to get our minds off ourselves.
This is definitely true. It does help to have other people like you guys to talk to as well though. Thank you everyone.
One of the big problems with text and email.. is. Emotions get lost in translation. What I was trying to do was say with enthusiasm.. your not lonely!! Trying to be kindly sarcastic or optimistic. Trying to relate my experience raising my babies when I was alone 30-33 years ago.. and when I’m alone with my grandkids ages 1-4 now . I didn’t mean to deny you were lonely for adult interaction.. just letting you know.. enjoy this ride with your babies.. because you will look back at it.. as the best of times.. the one child will be talking soon . And oh what fun that is .. you can have stuffed animal parties.. and give them all names and a different voice.. we have 2 unicorns that host the party.. and a big giraffe from England named Jim with an English accent.. a sea turtle.. a dad and daughter owl . Who we watched eat mice and spit out owl pellets.. on you tube. This gets my mind off myself and my anxiety and cancer I had to fight
That’s really cute
I understand your reticence about taking the babies out, but do you get them out into the yard at all?
While they are growing they need sunlight so they can produce vitamin D, which is important for growing strong bones and teeth. They don't have to be in direct sunlight, under a tree will do, but sunlight is essential to ward off rickets.
As long as they don't come into contact with Covid infected folk they should be fine.
Cheers, Midori
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