alone

[sparkle314]

people tell me to trust, to make new friends and just talk about what i feel but every time i do, no one cares, i dont blame them bc they are probably dealing with stuff too but whats the point of talking when no one wants to listen

[sparkle314]

I just listened to someone talk for like an hour and the second i try to talk abt myself they went upstairs to bed, its just crazy that i always listen to them talk about anything and everything but they dont care abt what i feel.

[Lostjoy]

I’m here to listen if you still want to talk. When someone else is spilling their guts to you it’s ok for you to spill back when they take a breath.

It helps to get stuff out even if you have to aggressively take your turn in between their ranting. I’ve had a few people who only want to talk about their issues.

I feel like I’m not making sense because I’m tired. Maybe I’ll try again after I’ve had some sleep. I’ll still be on here for a little bit in case you want to chat.

[sparkle314 in reply to Lostjoy]

you make sense lol, theres just been so much of this in my life and its just draining and makes me feel like im just a listening ear and not a person

[Lostjoy in reply to sparkle314]

I’m sorry. Sounds like your people are taking advantage of you.

My sister in law was this way for years. Sometimes I wouldn’t answer the phone because I knew I wouldn’t be able to get a word in edgewise.

She passed away a few years ago, so now I miss our conversations even though they were mostly one sided.

[sparkle314 in reply to Lostjoy]

Ugh I’m so sorry, I completely understand, sometimes you don’t even get to say one word but you still love hearing their voice

[hypercat54]

Hi you don't have to endlessly talk about your depression and anxiety to feel a bit better. My advice is to make some more friends and concentrate on having a good time with them. Often then we feel quite a lot better having something to occupy ourselves with.

It's only very good and true friends you can really talk much about your illness. It takes time and effort to make true friends so don't talk to casual ones or new ones. A true friend is someone who will listen as much as talk and if you have 'friends' who want to talk and not listen then my advice is to drop them. x

[sparkle314 in reply to hypercat54]

I’ve never had a friend like that so it’s hard for me to make friends bc I feel like no matter what no one will truly care you know? But you’re absolutely right I need to just jump in slow. It just sucks bc most of the ppl that use me to listen to them are my family :/

[gogogirl in reply to sparkle314]

At least you can meet people or volunteer.

[gogogirl in reply to sparkle314]

Maybe you're a good listener? Many people lack that skill.

[hypercat54 in reply to sparkle314]

Well it takes a long time to make good friends who will be there for you and truly care. Don't forget too that it's not a one way street as you will have to care about them as well and be there for them. x

[gogogirl]

Well, I am here, and I will listen. Sounds like you want the people who mean the most to you to actually listen. I like the expression that we were born with two ears and one mouth for a reason so we would listen more than we would talk!

[sparkle314 in reply to gogogirl]

Oooo I like that!!

[Dragon1940]

I extend my apologies to you for feeling that way, indeed we must provide an ear to those in need of someone to vent to but then what about us? As we too need to vent so I understand why you feel that way but you should perhaps ask them next time if they could just listen to you for a second? & then begin discussing & releasing all of your bent up feelings, & if you truly do need someone to talk to the people here along with I are always ready to listen! I hope the people around you begin to realize that you too are a human being with needs! Anyway I hope you feel better soon! Have a good day or night!

[sparkle314 in reply to Dragon1940]

Thank you so much you too!!!

[Dragon1940 in reply to sparkle314]

My pleasure to be of assistance miss! & thank you!