Real Books on Loneliness, Are They Out There?

I did one of the self assessments here and, no shock, it came up that I'm lonely which I knew. There was a book that was recommended titled "Lonely: A Memoir" where the author, a successful lawyer with many friends still struggles with loneliness. I appreciate that books are recommended here, really I do but as an unemployed failure with no friends I don't see how reading about someone who is more successful in both her career and social life than I will ever be could possibly help me. I have no friends, no job and I read the description of this book and I feel worse and I feel guilty for feeling this way with everything going on in the world. Please don't think I'm unappreciative but maybe take into consideration that someone like me isn't going to get much help reading about someone who already has so much more that I ever will (and I cop to failing myself in every way a person can fail oneself). Is there a book about how to deal with real loneliness, the kind that comes from not knowing how to connect with people at any level? I'm hurting and I hate myself for hurting and I can't see a way out.

[amoeba43]

Right off the bat, I don't know of any books.

I still wanted to respond, if that's okay, as your post hit on something that resonated with me.

Everything is really wild right now. It can be hard, even in the best of times, to feel like one doesnt measure up and with the chaos of the times, it makes that struggle feel like its....an imposition on the world. That's how it is for me.

But the truth of it is that you are a part of this world. You are a part of this great big picture, and your struggles matter, even though it may not always (or never) feel like it. And that's not another items to add to your list of self-recriminations.

The society we are a part of isn't designed to support us. We are all struggling to get by with whatever resources we have in life, and what a spectrum that is, with those who have so much, and others that may have very little.

I just..all of that to say you aren't wrong for your feelings, and I'm glad you've been willing to reach out and express them. I don't have the answer to the problem of loneliness, but I'm rooting for you.

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Thank you, I do struggle to find a place in the world for me and it's hard because I see people who can do so much and it seems easy for them. I know that we all have our struggles and I may not be privy to how other people are hurting.

[san_ray70]

I am sorry you are feeling so bad and wish I could help. Are you religious, I recently rejoind church after many years. There are organisations that need people to contact people who are unable to go out for health reasons. If you contact them they will put you in touch with others. I find talking to people helps, even if at first it is strange talking to somebody you have never met. Try to reach out I am sure you will find others are lonely too. Good luck stay safe.

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Thank you for responding. No, I am not at all religious. I have problems asking for help, I hate the thought of worrying my parents, especially now when they are vulnerable to Covid-19 so I am trying to deal with this as quietly as I can right now.

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Google books on lonliness and yes they are out there. Check your library also. I order all mine from the library and have them delivered to the library next door. I can get you some titles if you like. Give me til tomorrow and I'll get you a bunch. Are you an introvert as well?

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Yes, I am an introvert. Thank you so much for your help.

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I've got books for you. Loneliness and Introverts.

Here are the best loneliness books this far I've found. Following Introvert books

1.leaving loneliness by David Navyang pH.d

2.loneliness within by L. Diane Estes

3. loneliness cure by Kory Floyd

4. Celebrating time alone by Lionel Fisher

5. Stop being alone by A Satryan Kira

6. Never be lonely again by Jon Carlson and Pat love

7. True loneliness companion

Workbook by shrein h. Bahrami

Gretel 331♥️⚓

Go to Gretel331 for a list of books on Introverts ♥️♥️♥️

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Thank you. I really appreciate that you took the time to do this.

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You are very welcome! We are all here for each other.

See my profile, gretel331 for a post and several books on Introverts. Most are at your local library and I have read most. If you know of a book not listed please add.

Thanks💛💛💚♥️

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Thank you again.

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Anytime you need help just ask..😊✌️💚🙌

[Thissucks37]

Hi Aloneandsad. Just saw this post from 9 months ago. How are you doing now?

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The same, thank you for asking.