Taken advantage of, they don’t care about my grandchildren either!

Most of you know who I am, and my story with PTSD. Right now I’m stuffing also from a pinched nerve in my neck. My daughter husband has really never worked for 17 years of their marriage. I only help for my grandchildren’s needs, because my daughters enables him, not to work. They own not one thing, their entire life. We gave them a great start, but he blew it with all the debt he got them in. Now when everyone got the stimulus check, instead of using it for the bills or food, or saving it for the future, he is blowing it on a Hugh TV set, new computer, new lawn mow not needed, more things I can’t even mention everthing. He owns my husband, and I thousand of dollars still for twelve years now, he gives us 25 dollars a month. They still don’t supply my grandchildren with their need.

[Dolphin14]

He sounds immature and irresponsible. Your daughter needs to stop enabling the behavior. It's up to her to deal with this.

The needs of the children come before anything else. Your daughter should make that very clear to him.

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She hasn’t even before she married him, she knew he was like this then too. There nothing I can do about it myself.Sometimes people become like their spouse . Two people need to be opposite to balance each other out. He’s told her his sob story over, and over again, like he did me too. Oh poor boy bad life his parent got divorce, his father been married 7 times, does that tell you something, he married all these women to support him. There’s people out there that have had far worse. My children came first to us. There other people that need that check, to buy food, pay bills, but he buys things for himself. I so worred about my grandchildren.He never has the money to pay the bills, just recently, I went to drop off things for my grandchildren. There’s was a notice on the door nobe,you water will be turned off by Tues if you don’t bay your bill now. Do you believe this❤️

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

I am so sorry you have to watch this. It's hard to have your hands tied. There's nothing you can do in this situation.

If your daughter chooses to let him do these things then she better step it up and get another job.

She will have to be the one to provide for her family while he continues on. She will have to carry his weight.

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She does have 3 jobs to enable him, he does nothing around the house either.My grandchildren are going to be nine, and one twelve, he never feeds them their foods breakFast, no lunch, no dinner. All they get is what they find around the house .

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

That's neglect. I'm sorry but I'm angered at your daughter for this. She needs to step it up. Make them lunches before she goes to work.

I'm sorry she has to work three jobs. I don't mean to be harsh but she needs higher paying jobs or a fourth job. She's the provider. I hope eventually she wakes up before she burns out.

I was a single parent for awhile with no other support. So I have some personal knowledge about working my butt off to provide for a child. So, I'm talking from my own experience. I would feed my daughter first before food would go in my mouth. We sacrifice for them, that's our job.

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She is burned out, she teaches Autism children ,all night teaches dances, and work for a lawyer plainIng events. I don’t feel sorry for anymore, because she enables him.Plus whatever I do to help she treats me like crap. ❤️ Let’s him talk to me like crap too. Never raised her this way!