Hey, what do you think about a partner's care about the mental disorders we have?

[Yorisa_]

my lover is a workaholic, he always spends his time on his job. And when my anxiety comes he always disappears for the reason that there is so much work and more important things.

He always left me alone without giving me any strength to hug. In the evening he goes with his friends to the club without me beside him.

My anxiety was getting bigger, but I couldn't talk to him for fear that my relationship would be ruined with him

I am very angry but I also love him a lot. in the end I can only hate and blame myself.

[Hb2003]

I think that your husband is not a good husband he should be taking care of you and not go hang out with his friends doesn’t seem like he cares about your mental health

[Yorisa_ in reply to Hb2003]

Yes even though he knows what I'm going through

[DodgeDhanda]

I made a very conscience choice of being single & working on me for me by me & I can honestly say best thing I ever did. Now I am the happiest I've been since the kids were born.

[Yorisa_ in reply to DodgeDhanda]

I had thought about going away from him, but I was not brave enough to go away from him. thought that it would be even more difficult if I was alone

[DodgeDhanda]

A suggestion if I may ...... if you can't talk to him & he is always moving here , there & everywhere could be is that he keeps busy to ensure you both have a good life together or that he wants to get jobs done faster to get funds for whatever .

Anyhoo back to my suggestion . Write to him in a letter explaining everything & I mean everything about what & how things affect you & the way you feel about him & you need to know everything as honesty & communication is the most important thing in ANY relationship be it love , life or work. That way you've written & told him everything & then you will see what comes next for you both.

Go get ur inner peace by writing him.

[Yorisa_ in reply to DodgeDhanda]

My partner can't hear anything from me, he always turns the facts around, which ends up blaming me and cornering me.I'm really confused in dealing with him

[DodgeDhanda in reply to Yorisa_]

If he is cornering you then , it looks like he abusing you mentally. Easy for me to say this or that but you're the one suffering . Have you got family support ?

[Yorisa_ in reply to DodgeDhanda]

My family does not know about his attitude and habits.

my family has also been destroyed, nothing can be expected from my family anymore

[DodgeDhanda in reply to Yorisa_]

Never underestimate or shut the door on family. Remember the saying , if your losing water !! Ur just having a pee.

[Kainan]

There comes a time when the conversation must be had. Keeping it in to yourself is not doing you any favors

[Yorisa_ in reply to Kainan]

I really want to communicate with him. but every time we communicate he always talks with anger and always screams me, even occasionally he pushes me.

I am confused, I want to communicate but I am also afraid of him

[Opportunity in reply to Yorisa_]

I can see why you are so anxious! It’s scary when you can’t speak freely with someone because they get angry. Then you have to tip toe around their feelings and that’s difficult. Actually, that’s a sign of domestic violence. You may want to look into emotional abuse and see if what you are experiencing is abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a good place to start. They have a website.

[Yorisa_ in reply to Opportunity]

Yes, even to ask him for help I was very scared.

I wanted to leave but I couldn't afford to get away from him.

thanks. I'll try to call the hotline at the right time

[Opportunity in reply to Yorisa_]

That sounds like a great idea! 😀🙏🦋