Anger turned inward

[Freedom57]

Do you think we cause some of our own depression because we can't let go of anger we feel toward ourselves, and live too much in the past ruminating about mistakes, hurts etc

[Jzphoenix]

I think we do cause more depression on are own because is hart to let go. Just stay strong and look forward. I’m still trying but is so hard.

[Hidden]

Definitely!!

[grace414b]

Hey there,

As someone who has battled depression since I was 13, I do believe that sometimes we can keep ourselves there by dwelling on the past. It wasn’t until I found my faith that I was finally able to cast those things aside and embrace the present and future. I’m not saying I don’t still have feelings of depression try to creep in from time to time; just that I no longer beat myself up over things I can’t change.

Is there something in particular you’re having trouble moving past? I know that more significant hurts can be more difficult to overcome. Some of mine took years!

I’ll be praying that you are able to find peace with yourself. I’m always around if you need to talk.

[Freedom57 in reply to grace414b]

Thanks grace! I'm working on mindfulness, today specially on not judging myself especially. Felt more peaceful

[LorenaRuby]

Most definitely. Thinking about past mistakes or hardships really gets me fired up. But what’s the point? Why think about it, it’s not fun or enjoyable, but I’m always finding my thoughts wandering out to 5 or 10 years ago. Sometimes we can’t help our thoughts when they wander but we can prevent them from getting any further.

[Freedom57]

Learning to accept what is, this is quite a challenge but I already notice a positive change since I began yesterday after much persistence from my therapist

[Hidden]

I do this alot. My past mistakes, regrets, moments where I should have done something different, handle a situation better. I often think I am my own worst enemy. Maybe if I didn't do that my little voice on my head would be nicer to me or I wouldn't think so many negative thoughts. I hold on to past issues like sexual and mental abuse, self harm, etc because I feel like those issues made other problems in my life; letting boyfriends hit me, thinking im worthless, worrying about life all the time, and I can't just let that go.

I know the fact that I can't let it go is my fault, but I know the things that I can't let go are not. I don't wish pain on others but the day I chose to do so, I have my list.

So yeah, I do believe to an extent that we contribute to our own worries, anxiety, and depression. But it all had to start from somewhere...

[Nothing_but_books]

Hey Freedom57,

Ruminating. That's what cows do. Upchuck and eat. Eat and repeat. Eat and repeat.

Do they enjoy it more than we seem to? I wonder.

I loved reading your comments earlier today in "Book Bunnies" (or something like that).

Do you think our lovely books help?