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No one to turn to

I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression this past fall. There was a time where I had some support systems but my isolation resulted in a loss of that support. Ever since I told my family, they talk to me less and never about what’s going on with me. My friends and I aren’t the people we once were, largely due to mental health, and we just don’t talk anymore. My girl friend also struggles and I try to be there for her but she keeps things from me and it makes it hard for me to keep being vulnerable with her. I have never not loved myself until now. I don’t recognize who I am from who I was a year ago and I have absolutely no one. I’m trying so hard to keep moving but as a student who can’t hold down a job, I have long empty days just with myself, someone I can’t stand to be around all day, every day. I just don’t know what to do anymore and I’m scared

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It’s not easy but you just gotta find ways and reason to push through and remember that you are not alone

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I would set one goal and work to achieve it. A journey starts with just one step. Focus primarily on the goal and your efforts to achieve it. Do not minimize your accomplishments. This should start a trend towards a new and better life.

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Thank you!

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Your not alone. You can always come here and share what your going through so you don't hold onto it and keep it inside. I've bottled things up for years and I've finally started opening up more and sharing. Everyone here is my support system as I can't share with my family and don't have many friends. I just started therapy as well to help. There's a good support system here!

Stay strong and things can get better! Try to accomplish small feats every day.

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Thank you for sharing! I will try that

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Don't take your friend not telling you everything personally, she's probably afraid to say to much so you like friends n family doesn't want you turning your back on her. My kids have isolated me because they don't know how to deal with my anxiety. And people in general just want to Fix you. I'm careful to not say to much. Anxiety is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I went out with friends. I was feeling so overwhelmed from being out that I got diarrhea. I couldn't wait to get home I wanted to break down so badly. For me being able to come to this site to be able to vent, helps somewhat. My anxiety was so bad that I had to retire early from my job that I had, the pressure there was too much. You're going to have to just pretend there's nothing wrong when your around friends and family that's what I do.

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Some of us are better at "putting on" about being happy and being ok than others. I think he is pretty new to this and hasn't quite learned that feat yet maybe? I've been practicing it for 20 yrs now and still can't get it to happen sometimes. For those who don't know me well, I can pull off the "I'm ok" look but not for the ones I'm closest too anymore. It gets tiring, I'll be honest.

I'm really not sure what advice to give except take 1 day at a time, 1 hr, 1 minute if you need to Jowi. Put 1 foot in front of the other and see where it leads you. Do try to spend a lil time outside I would suggest just for a lil vitamin D everyday bc that does help me see the world going on around me as well. I rarely leave home unless it's an emergency, a dr appt or something with my kids. I have different issues with my health now instead of just my mental health though so it's hard to go places.

Just keep reminding yourself you can get through this and this too shall pass. Best of luck my friend! **HUGS**

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Thank you, I’m not the best at hiding what I’m feeling so I tend to just remove myself. Getting outside can feel great for sure, wishing you the best as well!

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You're welcome! I was that way once as well and just tried to ignore the issues but they always seemed to come back. I'm hoping you don't continue to have that problem though. Yes it is, the sunshine is great for down mood. Thank you!

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So sorry you are going through this. It sometimes can be difficult for those close to us to understand our struggles or to accept them. That doesn't mean they dont love or care about you. Remember that people have different ways of coping, your girlfriend may just be trying to protect herself but I'm sure she cares as well.

You're not alone in your struggle. There are so many people in the world who are dealing with issues like yours. As others have said you can come and vent here, people in this community will support you and lift you up.

Keep pushing forward and try to stay busy in whatever way you can while you're alone. Being isolated means being alone and stewing in your thoughts which isn't healthy. You can get through this and you have people here who are rooting for you.

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Thank you for your kindness, I’m going to look into some hobbies

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Hi. So sorry for how you feel right now.

Things can improve. You can build up support networks again. It’s a slow process, but it can be done..you have us here too, and this is a great place to come say how you feel or ask a question.. just writing things down helps.

Take a look at what is available in your area for people in your situation, reach out..

We can be so hard in ourselves at times.

Your not alone x

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Thank you! You’re right, just typing that out yesterday was somewhat relieving

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Yes it can be, it helps me

Your not alone x

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Jowi, you are afraid because you lost the most important person in your life, yourself. You need to find that love for you once more. Start working on your self esteem and confidence. There are many great videos on YouTube that can help you take direction. Anxiety and/or depression are a difficult disorder for others to understand. We understand, you understand. It is not a failing by any means. We may find ourselves alone at times and that is when we need to pull out the stops and rely on our own strength.

I never wanted to be pitied just understood and when that didn't work, then I turned to myself and became my own best friend. Believe in yourself, for what you believe is what you get. :) xx

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Thank you! I’d love to check out those videos if there are any links you can send me 😊

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My "go to" is YouTube, so I do have a couple you can start with.

"Love Yourself(Self Confidence Exercise" by the Honest Guys

"How to Build Self Confidence" by Michelle Phan

Hope this helps some xx

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Appreciate it!!

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