So I think I said early on that my mom was an alcoholic. We (my aunt, rough handling) convinced her to start outpatient rehab because she refused inpatient, before Covid broke out. By the time she detoxed she got about two weeks of Outpatient Treatment maybe six meetings before they stopped them when they locked everything down in our area because of covid. She was about 16 days sober. I expected her to fall back off the wagon, and she did, her house is in sad shape, because only my fiance and I are trying to help with that, the only other person to help is my aunt and she's absolutely overbearing (and my uncle owns a contracting business which is in no way, not-for-profit doesn't matter if it's a sister-in-law or his own daughter) Nobody really heard from my mom yesterday and my grandma text me today because she couldn't reach her and I called my fiance ( I'm currently remotely working from home and also have no transportation) and told him; he said he felt something's wrong, it's been too long, something's wrong; so he took his lunch and left work to check on her, whenever he found her, she was sitting in the recliner with a busted up face. Looked like someone took a bat to it. She'd fallen twice in the last 48 hours. Once forward (bruised face) once backwards ( small laceration on the back of her head and we found a huge pool of blood in the carpet just outside her bedroom). We had seen her over the weekend and as far as physical marks she had a healing black eye that she got about three weeks ago that she doesn't remember how she got. She does live alone I know there's no one there abusing her and I've taken all this as her drinking and stumbling. At any rate on my fiance, today he begged her to let's take her to the ER and we did. Tomorrow morning my mom has brain surgery because she hit her head so hard her brain is actually shifted 8 mm to the right of where it's supposed to be and there's blood sitting between the skull and brain that looks tho be 3-4 weeks old.
Please understand, I know there's somebody out there that was raised like me, and you were raised not talk about what went on in your home, that was personal. I was raised that way and as a young adult with children when my mom decided to live that way, she pretty much told me - this is how I'm going to live, if you don't like it you don't have to be here. Over the years it's been up and down depending on how much she was drinking how much her partner of 20 yes was drinking (he died eight months ago) so it's kind of a day-by-day thing with her and if I talk to her everyday it's because she's doing good, that's great, and if I don't hear from her for a day I assume that she's drinking. Ann's that's expected.
Now all of a sudden she's having brain surgery tomorrow....... I am so far out there I don't know what to do.........
Missing Mom
