Addicted to Sadness

[Freedom57]

I wonder if being addicted to sadness is a contributing factor with my chronic depression

that it over rides the ability to feel anything but fleeting happiness. I want real healing not a prescription from a doctor

[Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi. I’m Andy🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

I’m not sure what the contributing factors are for chronic depression.

Sometimes if we are sad the majority of time, then it’s obvious we would feel more comfortable there, within the sadness.

I know that any amount of happiness is a good thing. Even as you say ‘fleeting happiness’

I’m giving you an example of true happiness that has happened to me recently. Hopefully this will make you smile.

I have lived in my home for over 20 years. Birds come and go and that’s lovely.

Recently I noticed 2 birds snuggling😉on my balcony. Next they brought twigs etc.. mum then made her self comfy. Then 2 beautiful white eggs sat in the middle of the nest! Today I peeped out and mum was feeding a beautiful little yellow 🐥 chick. Joy! No2 egg is still sleeping. Nature is a joy.

Get all the help you need my friend. Reach out. Talk to the people that know how to heal you properly. Take comfort in the small things.

We are all here for you. And we care.

From myself, and the 2 new babies🐥🐥Take good care x

[Freedom57 in reply to Wiganladlovesapie]

Thanks so very much for responding with a happy story. I've never seen anything like you described, what a special gift you received..

I did watch a single lady bug yesterday but it didn't do much while I was standing still like the giant I was observing

I had a thought about how small it was in the world yet brave to live in it

Have a wonderful day🤗

[Freedom57 in reply to Freedom57]

Andy

[fauxartist]

Chronic depression is a chemical deficiency in the brain...we don't need a reason to feel sad, we just feel sad. The most common mistake many people make who have depression without extenuating circumstances that would add to depression, as is the case with the mental injury many of us also have, is trying to find a reason your depressed or feel sad.

There are people who are addicted to drama, chaos, and misery because of the mental injury they may have, or just simply because they love the attention as well by always having some kind of drama in their lives. But regardless...nobody I believe really chooses to have depression.

[Freedom57 in reply to fauxartist]

Appreciate your message, have a wonderful day! 🌸

[CCPM]

I am sorry you feel so sad. I understand what you are saying. It can seem like sadness is the "default program" of your brain. You've taken a great step by reaching out to a support group. The article below says that reaching out to others is a good step on the path to recovery. Another idea is to develop a wellness toolbox. Each person's toolbox will be unique. Maybe I like listening to music while you like playing with a pet. After all, you are the expert on what helps you feel better. Some of the best advice I've gotten is "Notice what works and keep doing it." Wishing you the best.

helpguide.org/articles/depr...

[Freedom57 in reply to CCPM]

Thank you for responding, I will start paying attention to what I can put into a tool box

Every morning I awake with emotional pain and profound sadness, however it slowly gets better through out the day

[CCPM]

What an interesting clue: It slowly gets better throughout the day. I wonder if, over time, you'll be able to identify more precisely what helps. Is it feeling like you've accomplished something -- even something small like brushing your teeth? moving around a bit? laughing at something? opening the curtains and letting in sunlight? a combination of things? Good luck as you identify what helps you.

(P.S. At my worst, what helped me was making a "Done" list as opposed to a "To Do" list. I wrote down anything I accomplished -- getting out of bed, taking a few deep breaths -- and put a check mark next to it. That made me want to add things to the list, so I was more apt to do other things. Of course, different things work for different people. Again, good luck as you start to identify your favorite wellness tools.)

[Freedom57 in reply to CCPM]

I've never heard of a done list, I will try it.. I do know I need to find a sense of purpose other than trying to fix myself

Thanks so much for your helpful feedback. Hope your day is a beautiful one!🌷

[CCPM]

I am really grateful for this wonderful site where people can connect and help each other out. Here's to beautiful days for both of us!