Feeling worthless

[WingOver]

How do you keep from feeling worthless?

[Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi. I’m Andy.

Firstly, I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way. But I am truly glad that you have reached out today.

You hear people say that they don’t feel worthy of love or friendship. Or not feeling worthy of a girlfriend, boyfriend, a good job or having money, even though they may have worked there socks off for it. People still feel unworthy.

I think that feeling worthless goes hand in hand with low self esteem.

So it’s important to build up self confidence.

Find something that you are good at. Only needs 1 thing. Make yourself the absolute best at this thing. Be proud.

It could be Voluntary work. If you are able. If you can’t physically go then try telephone voluntary work.

Giving back can be so rewarding. It boosts confidence.

Helping others can help you also in so many ways.

You will start to feel worthy. Needed. Appreciated.

You may meet fellow volunteers who turn into good friends. They will see your self worth through your actions.

You are not worthless. You may feel this way, but you are not.

Work on you. Get to know yourself. Learn to love yourself before anything or anyone else.

Take good care of you.

Andy🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[WingOver in reply to Wiganladlovesapie]

Thank you, Andy, for all these ideas and for taking time to help me!

[Wiganladlovesapie in reply to WingOver]

You are so very welcome.

1 more thing. Keep talking! Keep telling us your story. Problems shared...and all that. We are all here together to support each other.

Also, many have found that putting their thoughts and feelings down on paper is so beneficial. Helps to go back on and find patterns start to appear. It’s a thought👍🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[Blackdog1]

Hi,

Well, I have felt like I have no value for a long time but I'm starting to see myself in a different light.

I would say first, if you haven't already, get a physical exam and see if there's not a biological component to your feelings. Also, a therapist can get you to learn new behavior tricks that can really help.

I was not aware until a year ago that I've actually been bombing myself daily with terrible self-deprecating comments. This is of course debilitating. However, for the longest time, I was so unaware of my own thoughts. Learning about mindfulness training has helped this. Now, I've started catching myself and questioning and reframing my personal narrative. I do this daily. Usually a few times each day.

So how to stop feeling worthless? It's something that I approach from different angles. It has taken me alot of time and attention but I've seen real improvement (and I really felt like dirt for the longest time.) So I know things can get better.

Don't lose hope!

[WingOver in reply to Blackdog1]

Thank you for encouraging me, this helps!

[Blackdog1 in reply to WingOver]

You're welcome!