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Honest answer people

Is it ok for your partner to be watching porn while you go down on him. You make it to bed, no phone then all of a sudden he’s lost interest. Minutes later to go to the bathroom and watch more porn instead of trying with your wife or partner?

Then when you tell him that makes you feel bad like your not doing your part as a partner they get all upset because now your making into a you thing

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No, no, no!

I think the answer will vary. I guess what ever is ok with each member of the couple is ok. Me personally would not b ok. To me porn is like a third person present so I would veto it but wouldnt judge other relationships.

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I was thinking, ok watching porn together is one thing but you watching it and me not knowing. Then calling you out and then you think it’s ok cuz I’m there 🤦🏽‍♀️ like wtf.. I’m not ok with it. But when I finally said something about it I was being a “drama queen”

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Its a matter of personal choice but could b a deal breaker in your relationship. He will probably try to manipulate you into accepting it or he will just try to hide it under cover( pun intended, lol) But you both need to get on the same page before you commit to long term. Sex for most men is more about the physical and women need more intimacy generally( Im going to get in trouble if I keep saying politically incorrect things here). Anyway, for me it would b a big deal. I wouldnt marry a guy that needs porn. Others are ok with it. Thats just me.

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When I ask what I’m doing wrong he says idk how to be sexy, seductive or girly. I’ve never been one to get all dressed up to be at home. When we go somewhere sure but at home??

I didn’t learn to put make up on until my mid 20’s. I try to be sexy but it’s like everything I try to do I get shut down. I know he’s been around before we met, & it just feels like I don’t meet his expectations. Like if he settled for me cuz I had a career, I wasn’t out on the streets looking for attention. My focus was my career not my looks. & now that I’m trying to be more girly I just keep failing at it

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It sounds like he is expecting you to compete with the fake porn woman. You are young, doesnt seem like you two have the chemistry in the physical department. You need a man who makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. A man that makes your heart pound which isnt what you have. Dont settle.

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Spartacus22

As a male I would say no. If it was together fine.

Watching it is a personal preference but watching it while your getting intimate not cool.

By the username I am guessing your younger than me I am 40, I think there maybe a deeper hidden problem here, my meds give me ED, and and Anorgasmia which after sufficient ‘stimulation’ it’s a no show for the tadpoles! Viagra makes it stay up but still no a no show, I believe this is partly why I became separated from my wife as the meds did not make it happen. Maybe there is something he is hiding, I was too embarrassed to explain it and ended up here. I should have explored other ‘foreplay’ options more frequently maybe this would have helped maybe not but that’s on me. Ask and be empathic to the situation it’s not you by the sound of it. Or alternatively he is just a jackass?

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