Foster child

[Jozey17]

Lately I have taken in a friends kid who I have had be apart of my life since he was 3 now 12. His mother (single mom) constantly gives up on him and tells me to pick him up when she can no longer handle him. The other night he begged me to pick him up at midnight because of an issue at home. I picked him up and he has been with me for about two weeks. He wishes his mom was different. They just don’t seem to get along and it’s exhausting to me to see it. It makes me sad because mother doesn’t understand her child at all! He openly communicates with me and my wife and would much rather stay with us. It just breaks my heart because I wish I could take him in and adopt him. But the father who is in and out of his life would not let that happen and the mother refuses to get help for the both of them. I havr recommended therapy and she feels its her cholds fault. I feel powerless and am doing all I can to make sure he is at least happy when he is with me.

[Hidden]

Well, you're doing all you can do and I find that wonderful. What you're doing already is selfless and you're giving that child a place he feels safe in. The best to do at this point is just support him through this as much as you can (very much emotionally too). There's not much else to say other than I'm glad that there are people like you in this world to help in trying to balance out the evils and misfortunes. Keep at it! 🙂👍

[Jozey17 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah. His mom said he will be picking him up today 😩. He made us breakfast this morning as a way to thank us

[Hidden in reply to Jozey17]

Awwwww! That's adorable! This is starting to get at me emotionally 😢

Sounds like an amazing kid, I'm glad you guys have him for at least a little while!

[Hidden]

You're amazing, at least the child knows you're there for them and they can always reach out to you

[Daesin]

What you're doing for this child is phenomenal. Your influence is molding him into the man that he will become. I applaud you for your efforts.

I would also encourage you to get family services involved. In this way she would be forced to not only drug test but also to obtain counseling needed for herself in the child. This could also help tie up some of the issues with the biological father's involvement.

in my state of Indiana, every adult is considered a mandated reporter. What she's doing to this child is abuse and should be reported. Yes, it will open up a huge can of worms. But if she's not willing to get the help for this child that's needed, well someone has to.

I wish you luck and I pray that you stay involved with this child because right now developmentally this is where he's truly forming his identity. How he interacts in relationships in the future, those seeds are forming right now.

Best of luck and blessings to all.

[Jozey17 in reply to Daesin]

My biggest fear is that if they do take him away from her that he will end up in his fathers hands and that situation is also screwed up. There is no way for him to stay with me because I am not a relative. I just hope he always comes to me when he needs anything.