Chat friend sought

[wiserlady]

I am seeking a chat friend who will be a a regular friend. Not just popping up now and then and not just to go on about how bad they feel. Interested?

[Jason_16]

No one ever complains about having too many friends

[No1wthayla in reply to Jason_16]

Jason_16, I don't disagree with what you posted but I think it is a little rude. I don't feel that it is particularly helpful to wiserlady.

[Jason_16 in reply to No1wthayla]

I am so sorry I did not mean for it to sound rude. Wiserlady, I would love to be your chat buddy and talk to you about whatever whenever and we can be friends. And same for you, No1wthayla, if you are interested. Sorry again if that came off as rude I had no intention of making sounds so.

[No1wthayla in reply to Jason_16]

Thanks for clarifying, Jason. I apologize for not understanding. I should have read it as "more friends are better so let's be friends." Yep. I should have seen it from a different point of view.

[wiserlady in reply to Jason_16]

I dont think what you said was particularly rude but maybe you just do not get it. I am not living a lonely boring life where I sit glued to the computer all day desperate for human contact with anyone of any age and any type. I wouldnt want to make friends with someone with a very boring or lonely life either, they would have nothing to talk about worth listening to. Am not looking for loads of acquaintances who want to tell me how depressed or anxious they are regularly. I can chat to my clients and staff if I want elevator and ordinary chat. Its about finding someone to get to know and have a connection with and talk about things just the two of us, not where everyone can see it. IF I feel very down, which has to be for a very serious reason, and I want to try to feel better or comforted, I go to a free prayer forum at accuratepsychicreadingsonli... which is excellent. That way it is private, I can go there when it suits me, maybe 4 am, when everyone else is asleep, and I do not have to worry that the person I spoke to will share it or pass it on or say the wrong thing. To be honest I know lots of people who would love to come to me whenever they are anxious or depressed or bored or whatever, I dont want that, I am too busy for it, its pointless, boring, waste of time. If they only come to me when they want support. And if they say they will support me too its still too much of the bad stuff.I work in a very serious job where I have to think a lot, I much prefer to laugh and joke and be laid back when chatting to a friend. I really am seeking someone to get to know and chat to regularly- which means its obvious we have to like each other and have enough in common to even bother to start trying to be friends in the first place. There are friends and friends, some are draining, some are boring, some are selfish, so yes of course you can have too many. And anyone with a busy life makes sure there are not too many as they wouldnt have the time to give to all of them.

[No1wthayla]

Hi, wiserlady. I'm not much of a friend to my current friends. I hate talking on the phone and some of my friends don't text. Texts and emails are the ways I prefer to communicate.

But I have found that this site is really good for getting support. Some of us DO talk about our own problems when responding to a post but you could always skip those parts. And sometimes we get wrapped up in our own problems and prefer not to talk to anyone. Post anytime you want and I'll follow you on this forum. Then I can see when you have reached out and get back to you MOST of the time.

And most of us are usually empathetic and supportive.

[wiserlady in reply to No1wthayla]

Thanks for that but I prefer not to post on a forum about my problems an d feelings, I also wouldnt expect a friend to want to hear all of my negative stuff and moans and give advice, I am not looking for a free counsellor or therapist. It really is a true friend, for good bits as well as bad. Both ways. I go to a free prayer forum when I FEEL very down and want to feel more supported and think about things that are negative seriously. I do not even discuss those things with close friends. It is at accuratepsychicreadingsonli... Its nice to find an online friend who is a true friend, not just coming to you when upset or worried or bored, but caring and sharing the good as much as the bad. Its very easy to find people online who just want to moan about their bad bits or get free advice or chatter when they are bored or lonely but not so easy to find someone who is entertaining and makes you smile and understands there are times when you are too busy to swap emails or whatever same as I understand when they are.