Lost my best friend

[Fuzzypandaxx]

I had to put my friend of 14 years down tonight and I am very broken right now.... he was always there for me and now I just don't know what to do.

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Hi I am sorry to hear this, it's heart breaking to have to do this but I think most of us have been there at one time. I had to put my 17 year old cat down a couple of years ago and was gutted. All I could see when I looked in the mirror for 4/5 days was a cat murderer.

Then the kind things people were saying to me took hold, Things such as he had a good life and knew he was loved, and I was a responsible owner putting him out of his misery.

The same with you. You know it was the right thing to do and in time you will be able to concentrate on lovely memories of your beloved pet. It does get easier but it takes a while to come to terms with and the awful pain of it. But you will coz we all do in the end.

Thinking of you.Hugs xxxxx

[melbrown]

I am so sorry about the lost of your pup. The night when we lost our cat Ava was 1 of the hardest in my life. Pets are truly best friends. Right now now I know you feel horrible & might question everything.... please know you did the right thing & he loves you. Big hugs.💛🙏

[This-babe-runs]

I am so sorry! Lots of hugs!

[EdanaBrietta]

Firstly, know that the pain will pass. He will always be your best friend and baby, but in time you'll notice that you start to smile and enjoy life again. I know that it doesn't seem possible right now, but it will happen. For now, here's what I suggest: 1) Reach out to others- people at work, friends, family members, essentially anyone who will help to ease the loneliness a little. 2) Be good to yourself- right now the dishes in the sink seem like mountains and the laundry seems like an impossible cliff, so do what you can and forgive yourself for the rest. Wash the dishes when you need to, but maybe they can hang out in the dishwasher instead of being put away. Wash your clothes, but maybe they hang out in the clothes basket instead of being put away. Then, in a few weeks when the loss isn't so raw, you can begin to get back to normal.

I had to do the same with my best friend last year. I had 15 fantastic years with him and I was in a pit of despair. I could barely function- it was a victory just to feed myself and go to work. But after a couple of weeks of mourning and doing what I could to get by, I found myself smiling. And about eight months after, I was able to contemplate getting another dog. It was the best way I could think of to honor his memory was to give another dog the great home that I gave him.

What might help is that while the pain is still fresh, put away his things like his leash, toys, and bed. Right now they're glaring reminders of your loss. But, eventually, they will become reminders of the love you had for him and he for you, and you can pull them back out to remind you of great times.

[RENEENAY444]

OH NO!! I am SO sorry for you. I wish I had the words to comfort you. It is always hard to lose such a loyal friend. Most times, pets are more comforting than people - SO loyal and kind. Please keep posting if you need support. Love to you, and sending lots of hugs. XOXO

[Karenssister]

It seems the last 5 years of my life I have dealt with loss of friends with both 4 and 2 legs. My world was / is rocked, my heart broken.

Some of the comments here are perfect advice I can't add much more to it.

But one thing I have heard and found to be true in my case. Is the loss of something we love never goes away, we just become use to the feeling. Sounds so plain in the saying. But it's true for me.

Biggest hugs to you.

[gogogirl in reply to Karenssister]

I agree- we get "used" to the feeling.

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Its hard to make that decision god only knows i have had to do tge same thing before as well but we do get threw it. Its very rough but time does heal. Im here if you need to talk. Hope your doing better in this time of sorrows

[TarnishedHalo]

I just did the same thing a month ago. I cried until I couldn't breath and dry heaved. My eyes were swollen shut and I didn't want to get out of the bed. Now, a month later, I had a break down while cleaning. I found a tuft of her hair and just cried and cried. It does get easier, but it just plain sucks ass. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[gogogirl]

I am so sorry for your loss of the beloved pet. Animals are wonderful, and may they all cross that rainbow bridge together so they can love and play just like they did when they were all here. I agree with putting away his "stuff." It takes a long time, but he will always be a part of you . One day you will laugh about his antics. I lost a dog three years ago, and it took awhile- now I cherish the good times. We have another dog and I just hug and spoil her. Let me know how you are doing.