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[Layce]

Hi everyone. Im new to all of this. So i am having trouble dealing with everything going on in my life. I tried to work on myself and started therapy and lexapro right when the lockdown started. Therapy has been good but its still difficult dealing with myself. Always being home has aloud for constant negative thoughts. I am also so unmotivated that my house is a mess. I live with my boyfriend but he's locked in a room playing video games everyday; so im basically alone. I have been trying to get better, but than I just got laid off from work. Now im just stuck not knowing how i feel about things. I need a positive or something in my life; it was work. Now ive been sleeping all day cuz theres no reason to get up.

I just dont know what to do right now.

[Agora1]

Hi Layce, first of all, there is always a reason to get up. Each day we get is one

that we will never have again. I know times are bad right now and everyone is

trying to get through this. We all have a different way of doing that. Your bf

is keeping his mind busy by playing games. This change in our lives have caused

us to find different ways to be productive and motivated.

Lexapro and therapy are good starts but you are the one who needs to push the "Start"

button to motivate yourself. You look around and pick the easiest thing to do, which

may be straightening up the house, one room at a time. One day at a time. The sense

of accomplishment is therapy in itself. Working on yourself takes time and that's what

we all have a lot of right now. Push those negative thoughts aside, they accomplish

nothing. xx

[Hidden]

Hi there, I hear you and understand that you're feeling alone right now. Have you asked your boyfriend to give you some of his time, to maybe clean up part of the mess together and talk? As far as a reason to get up-- we attach meaning to things, to events, to routines. I know a lot of people have planted seeds and I can tell you that throughout my decades of life sometimes getting up to water the plants before anyone could see me and then hiding back inside was a way of life.. but I had a reason to get up--or to feed the stray kitties. I have the wonderful trait of being addicted to coffee right now so usually the need and want for it will get me out of bed eventually. Though for one (or was it two?) days last week that did not work. Can you watch videos--silly YouTube videos to get your mind off of things? Or, get settled into Tiger King or whatever everyone is binge watching? You are not alone in having these feelings. I have one colleague who consistently tells me how wonderfully level his life is and how everything is going well all the time. I do not believe him. At all. We all have low moments, any sane person is struggling right now -- periodically. Try a few things suggested on this site: reading; watching tv/movies; picking a small area to start cleaning up in your house; get rid of unused/broken items in your house; 5-10 minute exercise routine, etc. Any small thing will increase the positivity in your body just by the movement. Do it. I wish you some solace today.

[sunandbutterfly]

Hello Layce, Sorry to hear of the difficulty that you have been having. These are certainly interesting times that we are living in. I am glad that you were able to start therapy. Have you been able to continue with teletherapy? Or phone conferences with your therapist. This is something that I have done before and found to be most helpful.

Sorry to hear of the loneliness that you are feeling as well. Are there any jobs that are available that you would find to be helpful during this time? Or any distance opportunities or online volunteering that you may be able to do? Or hobbies that you can take up? Or a new routine that you can get into?

Maybe some of these resources would be helpful for you? list.ly/list/42eu-weatherin.... Hope that helps!

[Sabio77]

Layce I relate to the way you feel. I have been thru this and it is not easy. however, good news. there is light at the end of the tunnel and it takes time. you will need to keep talking to your therapist, stay determined to get better and use that energy/thoughts to keep you going. redirect those energies/thoughts that want to bind you and turn it into positive productive energy/thoughts. You CAN do this. believe in yourself. you were created with a purpose, with talents. you are valuable. ask your therapist how to manage better. I would like to know what they say. there are many ways. not every way is good for everyone. hugs of encouragement.