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Too much of a 'grown-up' to still be depressed and anxious!

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Hi everyone. I had thought I'd completely 'done' with panic attacks, fear and anxiety at 60. But no. It's come back twice in the past decade and I really wish it hadn't! In 2014, I had a grommet put into one ear and that nearly sent me round the bend! It didn't help my hearing at all, even though it was supposed to. Long story short, I had it removed three months after it was fitted, as I was sure I was going crazy! Anyway, when the hole healed up, I went back to only having half my hearing in the right ear, but I was happy to still be sane at least.

Now I'm back to much worry and fear and again, due to a simple, circumstantial condition. I had a tooth extracted about six weeks ago. It had been root-canalled 18 months ago, but had started to break apart. One Sunday evening recently, having bitten into something soft, the tooth suddenly and painfully, split apart right down to below the gumline! The next day, an emergency dentist had patched it up and sent me on my way, until she could extract it three weeks later. Having done that, I went away, but started to get a problem with the remaining gap. I have very narrow gums, due to not being allowed braces when I was younger. This has left me with the side of my tongue forcing itself into the gap, which for some unknown reason, is making me nauseous and giving me panic attacks and waves of fear, washing over me, whenever it wants to! I get through one day and maybe even the whole night too, but then upon waking, I suddenly remember what has happened and it all begins again! I occasionally wear a night-guard to give me a break, but then when I remove it, all these awful symptoms return! I am sure that if I could find something suitable to put into the gap, that would help to stem some of the anxiety, but as no dentists are working at the moment, I think I'm stuffed! I was already between dentists and had an appointment with my new one for 26th. March, but that was cancelled for at least three (and maybe up to six) months! I have tried making my own 'temporary plastic tooth' from a kit and have also used chewing gum in the gap. Strangely, that last one actually works a bit! But as the gum is still healing, I cannot stick anything to it with 'Fixodent' or similar, but am desperated for some kind of a solution. Just a few weeks earlier and I would have had a temporary, single denture or something, to fill the gap, while waiting for either a bridge or an implant. But as it is at the moment, that could be half of another year for me to wait! I'm popping (prescribed) pills like crazy (I don't do overdoses!) and have just started on an anti-depressant called 'Mirtazapine'.

If anyone has anything to say about my condition, the tablets, or anything you think that could maybe help me, I would be very grateful, thank you.

On another note, if anyone would like help with their anxiety/stress/depression or panic attacks/hyperventilation. Believe me, I'm an expert! But I have learnt lots of coping techniques over the last 38 years of it (thanks to the NHS) and can probably suggest a few things you can do, to give you some kind of relief. So feel free to ask away!

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Hi. My name is Andrea. I'm not a dentist but can relate to dental work and anxiety. I don't know how to fix it either save for going to another dentist or time to pass to get used to it. I just want to voice my support that I hope it gets better for you. I had a dentist file down a tooth without my permission one time. It still bothers me sometimes.

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Hi Andrea and thank you. I once had a tooth that was cutting into my tongue many years ago. My dentist at the time said that, to file it down, as I asked of him, would have been illegal! I think he just enjoyed the fact that it filled my mouth with blood many times a day. Despite even going to an Oral/Maxillofacial surgeon at my local hospital, nothing was ever done about it, but it simply stopped hurting so much. This new problem though is really annoying and upsetting. But I hope that it too, will stop causing me any problems.

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Aw. How are things going now?

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