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[hunbunny]

Hii, I don’t really know how things work here, but I’m looking for someone to vent to?

I’ve had a lot going on and don’t know what to do, and for now I need someone to talk with, thank you :”)

[Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi. I’m Andy.

A very warm welcome to our group.

I can tell you that this group works by listening very carefully to each other. We support and care for everyone here.

We are nonjudgmental. And even though we all differ in many ways, we have a common bond.

Please give us time to reply. We are all scattered around this world.

Thank you.

Can you tell us a little about what’s been happening in your world? What brought you here?

Again, you are very welcome👍

Andy🇬🇧

[hunbunny in reply to Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi Andy, thank you for welcoming me!

I’m here because I’ve been struggling with my mental health for some time, and I really need some advice on some things.

[Wiganladlovesapie in reply to hunbunny]

It’s very hard. And I am so very sorry to hear that you are suffering.

How can I help? I’ll try my very best.

What advice do you need?

Andy🇬🇧

[kenster1]

hi and welcome to you its not venting but a true expression of your emotions,here to chat anytime and take care.

[wiserlady]

vent away

[Poodie]

Hi and welcome hunbunny.

There are lots of people on this site who want to be of help.

I have had the diagnosis of MDD practically my whole life. Also CPTSD ans gad. I had a great therapist and I am still on medication for depression. Probably always will be. It is a struggle, sometimes more then others.

Can you say more about what exactly you are struggling with about your mental health. It sounded as if you do have specific issues you want to talk about. Don’t worry, I know it is difficult but you can trust this group to be understanding, kind, and most are more then happy to share their experience so it might help you.

You know it is all anonymous on here.

[Poodie]

I got a message saying I was not following you. So I did that but only part of the first sentence of yours is showing on the chat. I tried several times to load it. Could you please send that again .

Can anybody shed some light on why her full message did not show z?

[hunbunny in reply to Poodie]

Would you like me to send it in the chat or here ?

[Poodie in reply to hunbunny]

Either is fine, but if you are comfortable sending it here that may be best. If you chat with me, it just goes to me. That is o k too, but you will miss out on what everyone else here can give you. Or you can also start with sending it to me and then decide what to do. Totally up to you. Just please send it.

[hunbunny in reply to Poodie]

Alright ill send it here in a sec

[hunbunny in reply to Poodie]

I’m 17 and will be 18 in a few months. Right now the problem i really want to get under control over everything else is my weight. I don’t know how long i hav struggled with self esteem but i do know it has to do with a lot of bullying and being told by adults how i should present myself. Now that i am older i dress however i want, but i find myself covering up more, wearing baggy clothes, and being “less presentable”. I want to dress with style, but I’m too self conscious to.

Im currently underweight. I believe i have been most of my life as i am just a naturally thing girl. My weight never bothered me or was never a problem until of course i was told it was. I saw a doctor last year and she told me i could pretty much die if i didn’t change my habits. I weighed 89 pounds that day and I’m 5’0 tall. Im not sure what my current weight is. I know I’m underweight and i hate it. I don’t like being called “skinny” every time someone sees me. They say it like its gross. They tell me to eat more, id be prettier if i gained weight. I hate it. My self esteem is terrible at this point in my life. I want to get better. I have never wanted to purposely make myself lose weight. In fact I’ve always wanted to gain. But my sadness always interfered and i would lock myself in my room and my eating habits became poor. Now i am stuck. With low self esteem. All i want is to gain weight. But its so much harder than just eating. I don’t know what to do.

[Poodie in reply to hunbunny]

Hi hunbunny.

Of course you feel sad and your self esteem is low. That is a normal way to feel. You want to change and you can, so now your could do two things at once for yourself. Plus one more. You are totally correct. it is much more then about eating. You are a wise young lady.

1) You probably have to get used to eating more of the healthy stuff a bit at a time. Do you like desserts? Can you indulge yourself with a rich fattening dessert every day ? Cheesecake with ice cream, make bread pudding, chocolate fudge cake with ice cream? That would speed up your weight gain. But be sure to eat plenty of the right healthy foods too. Be sure you are getting the right vitamins and minerals. A supplement every day vit and min. should be o k. They have gummies. .

Tell people to butt out. Your body and weight are your business.. You can help yourself with this and you want to, so you are on the way. You could say it nicely. So try .... . I’d appreciate it if you would stop commenting on my weight, appearance, (whatever): practice saying that with conviction, out loud or in your mind first. It is true, so mean it! Make sure that comes through.

Avoid these people who insult you as much as possible.

If they keep it up say, more forcefully, I told you Do not comment on my weight or just glare at them . stare ! Then walk away. You have to practice the glare and stare too. You will be surprised at how people will back off when you stand up for yourself.

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2) Go into therapy with someone who specializes with weight issues. I do not know if you have an eating disorder but that is what the specialist who know more about this problem call it. Clinical social workers do this. LCSW is their degree.

Also very important - they can help you talk about whatever you have been through re this issue with your friends or family. You have a lot to work on with all your past bullying and hurts.

These people around you are definitely lacking. But never mind them, just work on yourself. You come first. Respect and give yourself some care and love.

If you are anxious or depressed get a referral from the LCSW to a psychiatrist m d in case you need meds to help until you get stronger. They can help with depression if you need them.

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Plus one) if you are not sure what to eat, check with a nutritionist. LCSW can help with that consult too. They may not want you to eat desserts but I would relish the idea.

Eventually start some exercise , lift weights. Plenty of girls your age work out.

Good luck. I know you can do this and you will learn a lot about yourself and other people out there too. You will encounter other not so nice people in life so you need to learn about them and choose nice friends.

By the way, 5 ‘ is underweight at 89 lbs.as you know, but you would not have too much to gain. What do you want to weigh? 105 to 110 ?

I weighed 9 6 lbs once and I am 5 ‘3”. I was in my late teens and was super anxious too. My ribs and pelvic bones were sticking out. It really scared me. The m d put me on something and I started to get my appetite back. I’m older so I try to keep it close to 116 but I get stuck 5 lbs higherin a m. I refuse to obsess about my weight .

So enough from me . I hope you are able to follow through. Keep posting . This is a good group. ❤️❤️❤️

[hunbunny in reply to Poodie]

Thank you so much! :”)

And i dont really have a weight goal, i just want to see physical changes in myself, and be able to eat “normal”

[CanuckAnon]

Vent away... we have all probably said or thought the same or similar... no judgement just listening... support or empathy should u want it... but mainly know you are not alone.... 😊