Last post, daughter husband took my money out of my account

I found out from the bank, he did not take my money out of my account himself. I got an alert from the bank that because my daughters name was in my account. The collection acency took out of my account because she was on it, and he was paying bills for a few months with no money in his account. So they put my money in their account because she was on it. He lied to me, he knew he had no money in his account that why the collection acency took mine. I don’t know if my daughters knows the truth, if she knows there was no money in their account. All she told me it was a mistake he took it out of mine. I want to tell him what I know, and that he better tell my daughter the truth. I have borrowed him thousands of dollars for debt, because of my grandchildren, still not payed back it’s been twelve years, still getting himself in debt. He a financial planner who does not work, can’t even keep his own in order. My husband on Sunday was telling me a day , call him up, ask him for your money back right now. Yesterday morning I got a text at 5 in the morning I will have your money by tommorrow, I don’t beleive him. Now my husband tells me don’t say anything what you know, what really happened I suffer from PTSD from abuse, never opened my month to tell anyone, and the people that knew didn’t help me. I want to let him know I know the truth, and he should tell my daughter the truth. She always protecting for what he does, she should know what he’s been doing financially to his own family. I will not do it he has to. I have been there for her all these years, but she treats me like a non human being. I has stopped loaning him money. I only do if I see my grandchild have needs. I have closed that account, she will never been on my account ever again. He will have to pay me back all those thousand in cash from now on. This has all made everything far worse for me with this PTSD. Thank you all for caring❤️ Sorry for all mis spelled word very nervous, nightmares all night!

[Dolphin14]

When you see your grandchildren have specific needs you should meet those needs. Not hand over cash. You don't know if that's even benefiting them. If they need food buy food. If they need a coat buy a coat.

I would tell them both. I wouldn't rely on one to tell the other. Lay the cards on the table.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

I do take care their need by me taking them to buy what they need. I tell them how much I love them, and to call me for anything they need. Like last summer their mother was working, father doing nothing at home. They called me , and said there was no food for breakfast, so I went over there took them for breakfast, and then to grocery store for good food. I know you right he will not tell her, he can’t not be trusted. I will not listen to my husband all of sudden changing his mine about saying something. He loves our grandchild too. Something must be said . Thank you so much❤️

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

I would never leave my grand daughter with out anything. So I fully understand

Be the loving grandmother that you are. Let the adults fend for themselves.

Best of luck to you and your family. ❤️

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

You are a wonderful grandmother, and person. Much❤️

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry that happened to you, feeling lied to and betrayed by people we know is devastating...I hope this all works out okay for you.

[Hidden in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you for caring❤️

[CuddlyPanda in reply to Hidden]

I'm sorry you're going through all that, I've been betrayed on a deep level before, so I have at least somewhat of an understanding, and I know that with this economy especially right now you cant afford to lose thousands of dollars. I hope your daughter will know the truth and accept it some day.

[Hidden in reply to CuddlyPanda]

Thank you ❤️