I've been doing guided meditations using the Headspace app and it's been helpful in training me to focus and get more control over negative thoughts. It may be worth a try.
Thank you! I've tried a few meditation apps but I felt they were only addressing the symptoms of my anxiety rather than the causes. I'm not an expert in anyway but I read on some psychiatry website that some of these mindfulness techniques can be counter productive if you use them reactively. For instance, if you use them to avoid experiencing your anxiety then you miss out on the opportunity to train your mind that your anxiety isn't something dangerous to be feared. Would be interested to know your experience
Read any book written by Dr Claire Weekes. You are right in thinking that to overcome anxiety, you must feel all the symptoms willingly and resist none of it. Anxiety is the mind and body’s way of protecting us from danger so how can it be dangerous. It is only dangerous because sufferers fear the thoughts and feelings generated by the anxiety (see 2. Below)
Dr Weekes said sufferers fall into two categories.
1] The sufferer has some unsolvable problem, sorrow, guilt or disgrace that must be addressed (possibly by developing a different viewpoint) that sits comfortably with them. Only then can the symptoms of anxiety caused by the issue be tackled.
2] Whatever may have been the cause of the development of the anxious state has long since been forgotten about and the sufferer is now pre-occupied with the very symptoms they now fear. They fear the feelings of fear.
In Dr Weekes’ opinion, most sufferers fall into the second category. For a while, I was convinced I was in the first category and spent along time searching for the reasons. I never did find them and slowly began to realise that I had been in category 2 all along!
Her books explain all you need to know about anxiety and all the various symptoms, including depression (she refers to it as depletion which is a far more accurate description) and how to overcome it all, by understanding what you are dealing with and learning to accept the symptoms, instead of trying to avoid, suppress or control the symptoms in any way.
I tried all sorts of treatments (Headspace app, meditation, hypnosis, counselling, psychologist) to stop feeling anxious but none provided permanent relief. The book (and a website called anxietynomore.co.uk) taught me that 1] knowledge and understanding and 2] acceptance of the symptoms were critical to overcoming the disorder. How can someone expect to stop the feelings of anxiety when they are not prepared to feel them and keep fearing them because they don’t understand what is happening to them? Sufferers become entrenched in this battle....a battle with themselves which they will never win.
It took a while for me to develop a passive attitude towards the symptoms and learn to let them all go but got there in the end. I gave up the fight and let myself fall into state, accepting all the thoughts and feelings, no matter what they were or how uncomfortable they made me feel and did nothing about them. I lost my fear of them and they all just melted away, bit by bit.
Recovery is different for everyone and largely depends upon how quickly people genuinely lose their fear of the symptoms, and question none of it. That is true acceptance. Acceptance is the cornerstone of the recovery process because it means sufferers have stopped fighting with themselves, allowing the time and space that the mind and body has been craving all long (for nerves to de-sensitise) for recovery to take place.
Recovery for me was so gradual, I didn’t notice many of the improvements until some time later on. I didn’t notice the negative thoughts disappearing. It just happened. It isn’t necessarily a smooth transition either, with lots of setbacks along the way (you think you’ve gone back to square 1 and will never recover - not true it’s just anxiety making you think and feel that way).
Those setbacks are an indication of how far you have come on the road to recovery and to be accepted like everything else.
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