Scared and anxious all the time

[Faith0413]

Hi. I'm new here. I been very anxious and fearful for 2weeks. Something set this off. I'm not sure what to do. I constantly think I'm having a heart attack and afraid to take the meds prescribed. It's taking over my life. Nothing is resonating with me. I'm afraid of everything. Had anyone experienced this?

[Mary-intussuception]

Hello Faith,

and welcome.

Do you want to talk about what set this off?

[Faith0413 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

I've been going thru a rough time in my marriage and life. My daughters have been sick for years. I was always the one who smiled and kept doing for everyone. Life just happened and one thing lead to another and I met someone. He turned out to be very abusive. Physically and mentally. It's affected everything in my life. For the life of my I can't find the strength to walk away. I think it's finally taking a toll on me now. He's even more abusive with his words. He finds away to contact me. Now I've become afraid of everything and in a panic state all the time. I cry all the time. My poor daughters! I feel like I'm losing my mind and scared I'm going to go crazy. I definitely do not know how to help myself relax. Sorry to ramble on but I just had to get it out.

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Faith0413]

Dearest Faith

This is so awful.

You are not going crazy, you're probably suffering from sleep depravation. Hope you are able to get safe and keep safe?

Is there a room where you can be alone?

To try and catch up on some rest.

Sip some cold water. Take some breaths - in to a count of 3, then out for 3. Increase to 4 if comfortable with this. Wrap up snug and warm .

Read till you nod off.

If you need to get out of the house are you well enough to take a walk in the park?

What's the weather like where you are.

Sorry, but it's after midnight here and I really must go to bed.

Tired ! 😴

Let's hope and pray that things will improve for you.

Thinking of You

Mary

xXx

[Alta-mae]

If you've never gone for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy before, may I suggest that it's worth looking into. I've gone off and on to discuss past and new issues.

[Phobia64]

I’m fearful a lot of the time. I can relate to you.

[Omghelpme]

Hmm why don't you try taking the meds? They may help.

[mentalgood]

Sorry to hear this Faith.

Like to say, Don't worry about it, but that doesn't help.

It sounds like your environment has slowly been worsening.

Words from a spouse can be either so damaging or very uplifting. It's amazing the power of words.

There is some good advice in the other replies such as getting sleep, therapy (CBT), reading, add walking, talking to someone who is objective, etc.

Of course, medicine can be helpful, but don't get stuck on it. I took klonopin and ativan for years for sleep until finally quitting and getting rest through other helps (herbal teas, exercising).

Finding agencies that intervene in abusive relationships might be a course for you. It can be very scary to take that step, but otherwise you're stuck in the same destructive life.

24 Hour Crisis & Support Line

is helpful. (Vera House)

[phone]

I hope your family finds peace and joy again.

[Proof]

Don’t be afraid we are all in this together. Taking meds and counseling have helped me in the past. Take it an hour at a time. Reach out to friends and family you need to have support.

[B4andafter]

Mentalgood gave you some resources to help you. As previously suggested, medication and exercise may help but that will not address the source of your physical and mental unwellness. The abusivive relationship is slowly killing you and you need to get out. It will not get better. Reach out to local resouces that deal with abusive relationships to help you on your way to leaving and making plans to have a different kind of life where you can be happier as well as your daughters.