Couples Therapy

[Boomba76]

Had my first couples therapy yesterday and it was terrible!! I got to sit and listen to all things negative and horrible about myself courteous of my wife who no longer loves me!!!

What a great experience!

🥺☹️

[wantobefree]

Hello

So sorry to hear that you are hurting in your marriage. This therapy maybe can be a great opportunity to fix your marriage. If your wife has agreed to go to therapy is because she wants to try to fix it and she does care for you. Criticism is hard to hear, but it could be constructive. It gives you an chance to look within and see what can be improved. If she is complaining about who you truly are, then there is a problem, but most of the times, people complain about our habits, which can always be changed. Living together in a marriage is about compromising, letting each other be free without hurting each other, balance is key. Good luck.

[Agora1]

Boomba, I can only imagine how difficult that was to hear. None of us are

perfect. We all can learn from our experiences in life. In marriage, it takes

two. In therapy, three. The unbiased professional who is there to allow both

parties to let out their deepest emotions w/o conflict.

I hope when it's your turn to speak, your wife will listen with open ears and heart

as to what you need in this relationship as well. Good Luck with continued therapy.

I hope you get some good results in being able to go on in a more sound and loving partnership xx

[Boomba76 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for the kind words!

[Poodie]

Hi Boomba.

I am sorry. That must have been difficult. I agree with the previous responses.

What is the format of the next session ? Is it your turn to talk ? Please ask for time to respond or speak up. The therapist will want to know how you feel. This an opportunity to make your feelings known and to voice what you hope to get out of your therapy sessions with your wife. Usually a therapist will ask you both about your goals and what you hope to achieve from this marriage counseling.

If you are both honest and respectful and if you both want to make your marriage work this should be very beneficial to you as a married couple.

It won’t be easy but you should eventually see some difference in the way you get along. .

Good luck to you. I hope it helps and that you are feeling better soon. ❤️

[fauxartist]

Why?... why didn't you get to rebute what was said and give your side of everything that was said.

[Boomba76 in reply to fauxartist]

I am not the one that is unhappy in the marriage so I didn’t have much to say. I am a spiritual person so I forgive her virtually instantly for things so I do not hold on to past grievances. She has bottled up 6 years of anger and resentment and finally this balloon of emotions exploded in my face November 1st last year.